It may be a little premature moving to this forum as I have not officially filed yet, but that is just a formality once I get an appt with my attorney.
H came home yesterday to get the boys to take them for the week. I was under the impression we were going to have a conversation about moving forward with the divorce. I had all my thoughts put together and was ready to tell him what we needed to do money wise. NOPE, I WAS WRONG! He still wants us to "stay married" so I can take care of everything but he wants to "move on with his personal life"... I said what the heck does that mean, why are you beating around the bush? So then he says he has someone he wants to start dating (although come to find out they have been involved for SEVERAL months)!!! He can't even tell the truth when he is trying to.
UGH anyway this is another person that he worked with here... she is about 30 (he is 48) I think and has a 5 year old son... and she has left her husband for my H! So far in this mess 3 marriages (that I know of) have been destroyed by H's cheating. Makes me want to throw up!
I told him to get our property up for sale and sell the classic car that is taking up space in my garage or I will sell it for parts! and he is not welcome in my home anymore! I am going to file for divorce and get this done ASAP!!!! I know I have hung on too long, but I am ready now and there will be no stopping me.
I am ready to step out in faith and file. Let the chips fall... I know there has to be a better life waiting for my boys and I.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Yuck! Stay strong and keep moving forward; every day will move you closer to the amazing life you are meant to have and the amazing person you are meant to be.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
He still wants us to "stay married" so I can take care of everything but he wants to "move on with his personal life"... I said what the heck does that mean, why are you beating around the bush? So then he says he has someone he wants to start dating (although come to find out they have been involved for SEVERAL months)!!! He can't even tell the truth when he is trying to.
UGH anyway this is another person that he worked with here... she is about 30 (he is 48) I think and has a 5 year old son... and she has left her husband for my H! So far in this mess 3 marriages (that I know of) have been destroyed by H's cheating. Makes me want to throw up!
Honestly, what planet do these people live on and how can they be this SELF-CENTERED!!! He wants YOU to "take care of everything" while HE runs around feeding his self-ego with someone else's wife who, by the way, is young enough to be his daughter. Barf!
Originally Posted By: NNP1965
I told him to get our property up for sale and sell the classic car that is taking up space in my garage or I will sell it for parts! and he is not welcome in my home anymore! I am going to file for divorce and get this done ASAP!!!! I know I have hung on too long, but I am ready now and there will be no stopping me.
I am ready to step out in faith and file. Let the chips fall... I know there has to be a better life waiting for my boys and I.
Good for you!! I'd give him a firm timetable too on getting his car out of your garage and property up for sale, and if he doesn't then do it yourself.
He still wants us to "stay married" so I can take care of everything but he wants to "move on with his personal life"...
Is he of royal blood and is he worthy of having a concubine?
That is quite insensitive for him to say such a thing. Mine actually told me that she would like to live with her rich OM (who is now 70), and that when he died... if I was still available... she might want to come back to me.
Oh, and fig has a story about her wedding ring that is just as classic.
I think people who have affairs actually have their IQ drop by 20 points.
He still wants us to "stay married" so I can take care of everything but he wants to "move on with his personal life"... I said what the heck does that mean, why are you beating around the bush? So then he says he has someone he wants to start dating (although come to find out they have been involved for SEVERAL months)!!!
Oh dear God. I guess he just expected you to say, Sure! Fine! I will totally accept that and have no self-respect and be disrespected by you as well in the process. Grrr.
Well it sounds like you are making the RIGHT decision, NNP. You deserve sooo much more.
I bet someone would love to buy it for $20!!! 