I find myself reading a lot more these days.... that and posting uh... elsewhere.
Do you want to know something SOB. Many times I'm jealous of your sitch because, had I woken up when I was your age, my marriage might have had a better chance of turning around like yours has.... I waited way the hell too long to wake up, stupid me.
When I would start to post to you I'd think, "What can I do to help him? If I knew anything I wouldn't be here myself."
That being said - I think it's great how you and your W have improved you sitch so much. I do remember some of your early head-banging episodes. So cool how far you've come.
I think we all feel that way, but it's always easier to see what should be done than to do it. That's why it'll always be easier to advise someone else (and I mean giving good advice) than to fix your own situation. I've used a lot of advice from people who were going through bad times in their marriages here, and I've given out advice at times when I wasn't doing too well, too.
In general, I'm dropping in about once every 7-10 days or so. Much less than before...not because the situation has gotten better (or worse).
Last sex: 04/06/1997 Last attempt: 11/11/1997 W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997 W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998 I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds. Start running again (marathons)
SOBear, I guess you'd have to read way back. DAnce Queen started 'Jayce's Thread' for me since I kinda was hijacking at first. I've also had conversations with Cinco, most recently on his Drive thread. If you have the time, read back a ways. Besides H being kinda LD, he has that late middle age physical problem that comes from years of smoking, and generally not taking care of himself. I have to say there's been a positive turnaround in his usual mood. I can think of several reasons, but I wonder if its dawned on him that I'm in a better mood overall if we ML more often. I'm probably not a good source of advice for a SSH. I don't get women who can take or leave sex, let alone not want it at all. Jayce
me: 66 H:60 2 adult sons 2 grandsons adult daughter deceased 5/05 me:Part time trainer H: plant suprv.
I come here to read when I am discouraged. I leave with encouragement and hope.
+1. Even though I know and feel that my marriage is no longer sex starved, there are still ocasional issues, but she and I are human and so it helps to luke, read and be inspired, with an ocasional post where I feel emboldened to come out of the shadows.
I have been lurking more and posting less.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
GonnaGoBlind, next time just make sure you finish first, then as she gets close to her own orgasm, stop whatever you're doing and jump up. For extra credit, shout "WHEW! That was CLOSE!"
