Thought I would chime in here since I'm in a similar sitch.
My XH was jailed today for failing to pay support ($14,500). The arrest warrant was a "body attachment" (straight to jail) with a cash bond for the amount of back support.
It came down to this was because he (1) ignored the orders in the divorce decree, (2) ignored my lawyer's two warning letters, and (3) didn't respond to the summons in the allotted time.
And, of yeah, he also lied to the process server when he was issued the summons (tried to pass himself off as his grown son!)
He claims to have no money .. but manages to find the bucks to finance OW's new business and her new car. Well, I just don't feel too sorry for him sitting in jail right now.
If Liss is still reading, she probably remembers my crazy XH and the wild roller coaster ride .. problem is, five years later, the ride ain't over yet!!
That is justice, good for you for following through with that.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Lissie! Where have you been girl? I've missed ya! I will be sure to stop by sometime this summer.
Regarding this whole support mess, I don't think I can rest easy until I hear something good from the court.
I don't put much faith into the court system these days.
It's just so stressful. I thought I was finally settling in with everything when I closed on my new house. It felt like a whole new start for me. Then the jackass stopped paying me support. For some reason or another, he is determined to see me suffer.
Ms. H, I'm very sorry he's still at it. The man can't stand the thought of you being happy and succeeding in life. He's very jealous and envious that you are able to move on w/your life and what he's seeing is that he's supporting you in doing this. He's angry and very, very resentful. He wants you to grovel for every cent and, in his mind, he wants you to suffer. He still thinks in his warped mind that you are the problem and he wants to find a way to get rid of it. Not once has he considered that had he worked w/you on all accounts, he wouldn't be sitting in a court room or having to deal w/lawyers.
If your lawyer needs to, he can subpoena the tax and payroll documents for proof of what the man earns. I do think that he's deliberately hiding his earnings from you and the judicial system, but your lawyer and the judge will get to the bottom of this and very soon. Maybe, for now, the grandfather is assisting in the payment of the lawyer, but I can't help but wonder why the OW isn't helping him with this....
Please take care of yourself....time will take care of this problem.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
