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#1897046 12/18/09 02:47 AM
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I've been reading alot of the WAW threads, and how to handle the situation. I can't seem to find anything about dealing with WAH.

Is the general advice given for a WAW also applicable to a WAH?

Any insite greatly appreciated. Thanks!


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Let me know cuz my I'm on the WAH wagon too.


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^ Ditto.


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Originally Posted By: Ruined
I've been reading alot of the WAW threads, and how to handle the situation. I can't seem to find anything about dealing with WAH.

Is the general advice given for a WAW also applicable to a WAH?

Any insite greatly appreciated. Thanks!


If you are more specific about what you want to know we can probably help.

In general the same advice applies ... nit always, but in general.


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Originally Posted By: Ruined
Is the general advice given for a WAW also applicable to a WAH?

I sure hope so otherwise I am screwed lol... crazy

Ladies it applies to both sexes...

Just use he instead of she and apply as is. smile


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Originally Posted By: Serenity13
(((Ruined))) (((Luv))) (((MO3)))

Originally Posted By: Ruined
Is the general advice given for a WAW also applicable to a WAH?

I sure hope so otherwise I am screwed lol... crazy

Ladies it applies to both sexes...

Just use he instead of she and apply as is. smile


I've been reading your thread S13 ... you know it's not quite that straightforward ...


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Glad to have you aboard my thread and welcome smile

I answered this as is - "in general" there are always extenuating circumstances to each of our situations however as you stated above - In general the same advice applies. smile


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@ R, LL, M3 & S13

I do not know much about WAH. But I do understand "us" the guys.

I would think that everything works the same exact way except you could have better odds for a WAH to return and return sooner than a WAW.

I have no proven knowledge of this but here is why I believe this.

Men are visual creatures by nature. If a man was in an A, it is just sexual, at least to begin with. It can be fun, and may carry on for a bit. But it is easier for a man to let go of an A than a woman. Women usually attach emotions to an A. Makes it harder to break.

Men just get tired of the same old routine and stray. Women get tired of their men and look for love. In both cases, it boils down to weak people making bad choices. Men being the weaker of the two.

Keep doing the DB thing. I think it is all the same. Hope that helps.


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Pat...

Originally Posted By: patpat
If a man was in an A, it is just sexual, at least to begin with.

I am not a man however I don't think I buy this...

My H started with an EA, that turned into a PA that turned into him abandoning his family without so much as a note.

Now he is living with that pathetic excuse of a woman & ignoring his children....

Sure hope it (ie: sex) was worth it. wink


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Originally Posted By: Serenity13
Pat...

Originally Posted By: patpat
If a man was in an A, it is just sexual, at least to begin with.

I am not a man however I don't think I buy this...

My H started with an EA, that turned into a PA that turned into him abandoning his family without so much as a note.

Now he is living with that pathetic excuse of a woman & ignoring his children....

Sure hope it (ie: sex) was worth it. wink


I SO AGREE!!!!!


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