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Well,

My last post is in piecing but that's not working out:

Here's my last post in piecing:

Thanks guys for stopping by.

H is coming home today from a weeek trip. He shared with me last night that he wants a D, he just doesn't want all the things that come with it...i.e... destroying lives, financial issues, me taking the kids across the country to live.

He ask me at one point don't I know that he likes me?
It's not me it's him... he doesn't know what's wrong.... he has tried .... doens't know what to do.... it's not fair to me.... I deserve to be loved and to love someone who returns it..... he dreads coming home (even though he just said that he likes me)...

So I figure he is coming home and packing and leaving.... seems I have failed busting this divorce.

I am very sad. He will regret this one day.... I regret that when I let he come home he sat across from our children and promised to "never do this again, I will never, ever leave again".

I am sad that the person you should trust most in the world and suppose to be a role model is going to teach them the meaning of a promise is meaningless....


PS.... I am moving back to seperated.


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EX walked away from kids too



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I dont like to see people that make it to piecing only to come back here.

You did not fail.

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Sandycay,

Sorry he has not changed. I feel for you and the kids.

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I am sorry sandycay.
I can only wish to you peace and joy in your future.
xxx
Stay strong
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I am so sorry to hear this.

Your H did say one thing that makes sense - It's not you, it's him. He's the one that has to deal with his issues and until he does, he will never be happy.
Sandy, try not to make any hasty decisions right now. Take your time in deciding what is best for you and your kids, even if H doesn't want to be a part of that.


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It is definitely him. And until he figures out what 'it' is and makes an effort to work on himself, I don't see how things will be better for him. Sad.

Hugs to you sc, I feel your pain...


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Well,

He came home today while I was at jury duty and packed a suitcase and called me at 5 to let me know ... he's done. He's called an attorney and everything.

I had to tell my kids without him here. He's done.


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Oh, SC. Wish I could hug you from here....


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uughhh and the fact that we ML twice yesterday morning just makes me ill. How could he do that?


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I also met him to get the keys back, he didn't like that and couldn't understand why!


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D16, S19
1st S 1/08-5/08
Reconciled/May 7, 2008
Left again Nov 9, 2009
I Filed: Nov 17, 2009
Final: April 14, 2010
EX walked away from kids too



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