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#1844463 09/24/09 09:51 PM
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I've read follow your gut when it comes to an affair. Its in my gut but I have no proof. My W has her cell phone locked and doesn't use the home computer. Should I just not worry about it. Any suggestions?


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JTJ #1844470 09/24/09 10:06 PM
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I had that gut feeling the last time my wife and I went through this whole thing. There were rumors etc to support my feelings too. There was an EA of sorts with her boss who she still works for. There may have been more, but I will never know.

My wife still keeps her blackberry locked and is constantly texting. That may be due to the fact that in the past I often spied on her. If you were the same previously, your wife may simply feel like she needs to be secretive.

I decided last time simply not to worry about something I don't know and may never know. If I ever found out that she was having a full blown affair, that would be the end for me. I will put up with a lot, but I refuse to share my wife with another man, when I am doing all I can to be a good husband and father.

Others will most likely agree that your gut is probably right, but until you know it is, simply think of what you would do if it was true and then move on.


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Ontario, Canada

Loving Marriage #2 with the perfect person.


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If it were me (and it was), I'd find out for sure, so I knew what I was dealing with.

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