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Things I would consider to indicate an inappropriate friendship:

1000+ text messages in a month.
late night "business" meetings at the other person's house
private phone calls about their trouble marriages

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Yes, and OM telling his "friend"(my wife)that her neck shape is sexy. I would call that inappropriate,no?


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And lets not forget 5 hour long motorcycle trips on a workday with my wife when his wife is at home taking care of his kids.


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Anything that you would feel uncomfortable about doing or saying to the OP in front of your S...inappropriate friendship.

Any "friendship" that you have to keep hidden...innapropriate friendship.

Pretty much anything that my said or did during the first year he was with OW.


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I would add having lengthy discussions about the state of your m, your feelings, what is bothering you with OP and clamming up at home.


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Wifey, I asked my wife if she ever talked to her friend about personal stuff and she said no, we just talk about work. Big ole lie. That was 4 months before the bomb.


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Originally Posted By: v1olin
Wifey, I asked my wife if she ever talked to her friend about personal stuff and she said no, we just talk about work. Big ole lie. That was 4 months before the bomb.


Well of course it was a lie. The same lie I heard before I got an email from my H's friend letting me know just how much she knew about our sitch. Its a hurts donut. (Hurts, don't it.)


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Originally Posted By: v1olin
And lets not forget 5 hour long motorcycle trips on a workday with my wife when his wife is at home taking care of his kids.

This one is amazing to me. How can a person be attracted to a person who treats their S this way? Do they actually think they are that special that the person won't do the exact same thing to them?


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C-Bart, That is what most people say when I tell them but they still are normal people using their BRAIN to think. My wife and her work buddy are both in a fog of highschool like emotion. Disgusting.


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Emails... Hiding the friendship from everyone, skipping work together to... talk


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