I wore a blazer to work today. Everyone thought I had an interview. I don't. I just left my jacket at the church and it is a tad chilly. But I am actually looking for another job.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Funny how people can speculate based on what you wear. I am a jeans casual kind of person. But if I dress up at all people wonder what the heck is going on.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I am thinking about trading in my PS3 for the new WII since money is a bit tight this year and I want my girls to have a good Christmas. They would love the WII. I did get them some board games and things that they could do as well. It is just not going to be a big Christmas for them. I consider my droid phone to be my own Christmas present to myself.
The sooner Christmas and New Years Eve gets over, the better. W reaffirmed she has plans for New Years Eve and has a baby sitter lined up. I have one of 2 options possibly. If one set of my friends throws a party, I will take my girls there. If not, I may figure something else to do with them. I have also been invited to another New Years Eve party that I could not take them to. But I am wanting them to enjoy New Years as well.
I think I just grow so tired of this continued trek by W right out of our lives and into someone elses. Even though she is nicer now, moving on is still at the front of her mind.
I am probably being petty and having a bit of trouble because of the holidays. It is just such crap in my opinion.
I just seem to recall vows being made and W saying D will never be part of our family. Empty words I guess.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think I am just hurting a bit between last night and this morning with the holidays. Hoping for the best, but expecting no change in things.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
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NOT EVEN CLOSE!
lets try an easier one.
what do you know about the population dynamics of foxes and rabbits?
I just seem to recall vows being made and W saying D will never be part of our family. Empty words I guess.
I heard the same thing Kevin! "This will never end...I promise." It did end! Things change and people change. I've had to man up and confess that I didn't honor our marriage vows either because I promised to love, honor, and cherish her...and I didn't!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
"Do you want to be married to someone who doesn't value you or the relationship they have with you? What kind of marriage is that?
Until you project that kind of self-esteem, self-respect, self-value, no one will ever be able to value you and hold on to you, you just give the impression that you're not worth the effort.
Time to wake up." - robx
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
I heard the same thing Kevin! "This will never end...I promise." It did end! Things change and people change. I've had to man up and confess that I didn't honor our marriage vows either because I promised to love, honor, and cherish her...and I didn't!
Antlers,
Thank you for responding. I hear what you are saying. But regardless of how much or how little we cherished our S, we woke up and it never justifies the actions being taken with regard to D and OM/OW.
Not that it matters any because we have no control over the situation. But we are still entitled to our feelings about the situation.
I know your road has been just as hard and you really divorce busted your rear off.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think I just grow so tired of this continued trek by W right out of our lives and into someone elses. Even though she is nicer now, moving on is still at the front of her mind.
Kevin,
This is the reason I told you the other day "you are letting Satan have a field day with your thoughts". You have to stop believing you know what is "at the front of her mind". Relish the blessings that come your way:
1) Christmas with your MIL and W and girls 2) The party at your SILs
....and ignore that you aren't getting EVERYTHING you want. What if God is checking to see if you're grateful when He answers your prayers? You don't seem to be! Should He grant more? Man up, Dude!
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I am probably being petty and having a bit of trouble because of the holidays. It is just such crap in my opinion.
Glad you recognize that you're being petty.....now do something about it instead of bitchin'.
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I just seem to recall vows being made and W saying D will never be part of our family. Empty words I guess.
Oh, and you've never done anything to violate your vows to "love, honor, and cherish"....just read your posts from the last few hours.
Kev....you are in a great place with your W....are you going to move FORWARD?....or BACKWARD?
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
I agree with Faithful! You are really going forward not backward. If you and faithful get a chance can you hop on over to my thread. Kevin, I wish I was as lucky as you are spending the holidays with MIL and W and girls. You said to me that your MIL was like mine well, I don't think so, mine doesn't even call the children or me otherwise invite or be around us on the holidays.
