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Trusting - You will make no sense of it...wow what would he have thought of me...my son slept in the same bes as me when he was much older than 5 after the bomb hit our family --- they want to feel safe there is in no way anything wrong with your daughter sleeping with You ..he is odd for even saying that...and on the other about him sleeping with ow with no marriage....well I have been researchin this subject of remarriage very earnestly as my Xh recently remarried the OW and the BIBLE is very clear that remarriage is adultrey....and some may argue the innocent party is ok..but I dont want to take any chances....The Bible states be reconciled or remain unmarried...wo YOUR X is completely unapproriate if he is trying to portray himslef as a Christian Man.....

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And why call you me, Lord, Lord, And do not the things which I say? (Luke 6:46) Great Verse Hodly... You can say what you want, but what you DO is what you BELIEVE...

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trusting - there is alot of research on the subject of remarriage and the churhes today are very watered down....one place to start is dr leslie Mcfall - you can google him...there are other great references too....you know the catholics and the amish have stuck truer to the word of God when it comes to marriage than most other Christians.....

There is a reason you have not felt like moving on...Gods word is written in your heart....thats my opinion....same with cagz

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He is upset because my 5 year-old will sleep with me on nights she gets afraid. He finds that inappropriate. It does not matter that he has been bedding a bimbo in front of the kids without nuptials. UNBELIEVABLE......


Don't lose sleep on this. We had CPS involved in my divorce. It means nothing.

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Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
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Thanks guys for all your thoughts and support.
I really don't get that worked up over ex and his threats anymore. They really do not mean anything. It is all so ironic and juvenile. My 5 year-old is at that stage where she is just so scared of the dark. I will continue to let her sleep with me anytime she wants. Ex, I believe is just trying to get a reaction out of me. I do have to say that the guy is persistent. He tries and tries and tries......... I give him nothing.

So again his aunt emails me to try to find out what is going on in my life. I deleted it and will continue to not have any contact with his family..... more persistence.

Ex is late with the child support payment. I usually have it by the 15th of every month. Thankfully, everything is paid this month so I am ok.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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Hate the stress of the child support payments...just another stinkin' connection to them. (sorry my own baggage here.)

Hope your weekend is great!!


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again


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You too Cagz, most of this is his temper tantrum in going dark. He wants some control over me, and withholding the support to them is a logical tactic.


Me: 46 H:44
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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
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3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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that was exactly what i thought..... always about control - or lack there of.


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
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D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again


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When do these guys run out of steam?????


Me: 46 H:44
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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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T it seems to me that your XH is doing the same thing as mine. As we are both D our Xs no longer have any leverage over us, they can no longer say do x or I will do y to make the D more uncomfortable for you. We have both gone dark so they can't try to push buttons when they speak to us. So the only recourse they have left open to them is the children we share between us.

They know that no matter how old the child if they do/say something horrible to them it will get reported to us and in thier warped minds they think it us that they are hurting.


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15
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