I know the feeling about them drawing closer. Don't worry about the slip ups ,we are human. Just be consistent and he will continue to notice. Funny thing, you have created a safe envronment, like snodderly says, and that is working. I am trying to do the same thing and it seems to be working as well. It at least keeps the door open and will hopefully create or strengthen the connection.
Cheers,
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
I continue to be amazed how u handle your situation.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
GG - you sound like you are off to a GREAT start in 2009!
I agree with that, too!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thanks everyone. I did lots of cleaning and put the house back together after the holidays.
On Sat h came over around 6pm. He seemed to be in good spirits. We had dinner and then he asked to watch a movie again. I said sure h. I was suprised he showed since it was so late in the day.
Once again, I did not call him and ask where he was. I just let it be. When he left he said see you on Sunday.
Today he came over around 10am. I joined him for salads at lunch time. We had dinner and then h helped clean the kids room and gave them baths and helped with the laundry.
Now he was suppose to help with the kids room earlier in the week. He did apologize for being so slow helping. I said no problem h, don't worry about it and thanked him for his help this evening.
Before he left D4 said I want daddy to sleep in our house like the neighbors dad does. She is so smart. I am sure h didn't like how that sounded, but that is the kids words NOT mine.
Before h left we had a nice shower together. He then gave me lots of kisses and a nice hug before he left and said 9 is a good number. Referring to the year 2009. I just said oh it is, then awesome h. Not at all understanding what he was saying. Good number for what?
Ah the mystery in understanding words. Then he left and said he would be here around 2pm tomorrow.
He has a Dr appt on Tues and we have MC on Thurs.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
You sound like you did really great in not questioning, etc and he responded positively in his actions and words as well.
I am glad to heat he is still keeping his appointments as that is very important.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H had a meeting today, so I left work a little early to get home for s7. I do have a tendancy to try to tell h what to do. I just have to get that branded into my brain.
It was minor stuff, but h's respone is do you think I need help with figuring that out or don't you think I have thought about that.
It is just so natural for me to say things. I just need to zip and just listen and the world would be so wonderful.
2009 focus on just listening and validating with h. No offering advice or his words telling him what to do.
H said he would come over after his meeting. If he does great, if not I will have fun with the kids.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
