What a time to start a new thread. Well did not make it to the Casino last night. I called home and w was helping son with homework. She is gong to call when she leaves. I am going to be all dressed nice when she arrives. W signed us up for an "owner’s presentation" at 11:00. Just to go and sit there for 1/2 hour listening to them try to sell us more shares we will get a $75.00 gift card. (Dinner tonight?) There is a Gym here somewhere so I may go there this morning. Then again I may just rest up for tonight.. DO not worry... THIS IS A DATE... No sex expected but I sure would not turn it down...
Well I hope you all have a GREAT weekend. I am...
Thanks everyone for the prayers and the good vibes sent my way.
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
rolling with the flow..... Front desk just called... The "owners Pres" was canceled. I think it was becase I did it in Feb. when I was in Vegas.. Oh well.... W just called she is on her way...
Later Me
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
No real time to post... but just wanted to let ya all know things went GREAT...It was not expected and we did not have sex BUT... WE SLEEP IN THE SAME BED...........First time in almost two years............
Me
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
So When Wife arrived I can see she was a little stand off ish... Anyway she said something about wanting to go visit some winery's and do some wine tasting. I said great....
We went wine tasting and she complimented me on my options on some of the wines we tasted. (This was a 180 for her; she used to put me down on my wine tasting knowledge. I am a beer kind of guy and wine is ok but I rather would have beer or whiskey) Anyway she really liked this wine that I also did like.. I think she was a little impressed with my knowledge of wine barrels and the character it gives to wine. (Thank you History channel).. I bought the bottle of wine she liked and the glassed we tasted in that had the winery name on it. (Good Memories)... Then we went to the casino... It was strange because the casino is on an Indian reservation. Lots of people smoking.. (Illegal in other parts of California). We received $10.00 credit from the casino. Wife went through that pretty fast. I was a little luckier... We played mostly penny and nickel machines... BUT wife saw these machines and really wanted to play them so we sat down and I put my money in and so did she but something was not right with the credits.. So I cashed out right away.. Wife when ahead and bet 15 cents and lost it... Then she noticed something was not right also so she cashed out.. She only got back $5.00 from the $20.00 she put in. She pushed the call button to get an attendant and then I looked really close at the machine and noticed it was a $5.00 machine NOT 5 Cents..... Wife felt so bad losing $15.00 on one bet.. I told her don't worry about it.. We did not come here to win. We came to have fun.. So we then went and ate dinner. (We got a buy one get one free) Dinner was great and Wife really enjoyed it... we then left and went back to the condo.. We were both tired. I went to the bathroom and when I came out. Wife had the T.V on and said I bet you know what this movie is.. It is your kind of movie.. It was a disaster movie about an earth quake.. So we sat and watched that movie and then wife brought out box of old pictures and new paper clippings she got at her mom's house she wanted to look though. She then said "where are those margarita's you were going to make? I said coming right up.... and I made them. So we sat and drank Margarita's and looked at the pictures. Wife then said she was really tired.. She did not get much sleep the night before. She said. "I hope I can get some sleep tonight if you start grinding your teeth" I told her I already thought of that and I put some ear plugs on her nightstand...( I really did put some there) After we looked at the pictures and laughed and had a good time.. I cleaned up and said good night and went to bed. I fell asleep pretty fast. (Wine, beer and then margaritas).... I woke up during the night and wife was sleeping right next to me. IN THE SAME BED... there was another bed room in the condo and she could have chosen to sleep there. I needed to get up early and get home so Daughter could go to work so I rolled over gave wife a hug.. Kissed her on the head and said. Thank you... I love you.... I then got up and went into the other room to take a shower. I closed the bedroom door and cleaned up the condo and got all of my stuff. I left a note on the frig. Thanking her for the great time I had. I also wrote that I am sorry for letting her down during our marriage. If there was any way I could take away the pain I have caused her I would do anything to do that. I signed it...
I LOVE YOU.... Doc
I went to the bedroom and opened the door and said 'I will see ya later" and I left.
So that was my "as if" weekend. Part of me thinks maybe I should have pushed a little more. But part of me thinks I am slowly breaking down that wall she has built up. She is accepting me as more of an equal. If you remember last year at our Yosemite dinner she told me I had no class because I had not "graduated" to red wines... now she is listing to me.... my opinions on the character and flavor of wines......
Well I will fill ya in on what happens when she gets home
Later Me
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hi Doc, Sounds like you had a nice time. She seems to be trying harder and meeting you in the middle. Continue to take it slow and be careful with the "I love yous", not quite sure she is ready for that. WDID may be able to weigh in more on that. Her love language seems to be acts of service. You have been doing that for her, I say continue with that.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Well W came home in a good mood. I mean there was no hugging and kissing.(was not planning on that anyway). But she did not "pull back". So I am looking at this as an "advance". Yes I am hopinng the walls are comming down. Going to let things cool a little and then with WDID help I will try a little advancement of my own.
I am not willing to go another year as things have been. It looks like if things keep going the way they are I will not have to. I am not getting my hopes up. I am ready to go either way at this point. (That's with or without her). Thanks everyone that sent the positive vibes my way and for all of the prayers. also my Mom should be comming home wensday..... talk to ya all later
Do LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
The fact that she chose to sleep in bed with you is a very good sign. I think your next step should be to get her back into the bedroom at home. It is past time for her to get out of the baby's room.
