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#1591966 09/15/08 03:32 AM
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Hi All,

My last thread locked. I've been a little down today & this weekend. Last year at this time I had just found out H wanted a D, so it's been a rough year for me.

I have a friend that wants me to go out with this guy but I'm just not sure I'm ready. I hope it would just been as friends & I would have to make that clear.

In my heart I can't see my life without my H even tho he has married OW, this MLC's hit him really hard.

Thank you all for being here for me!!!!

((((HUGS))))

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Hey nlt!

Am I first?!!
Can I have a drink?
No, just kidding, no alcohol for me :(.

Be careful when/if you go out, it's too early for you and you're still hurting.

(((HUG)))


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Hi Stella,

Yes, I agree, it is too early for me!! Like I said, I really haven't given up completely, I probably should but for some reason I can't.

I hope you are doing well.

Yep, you are first on this thread!!!

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I don't think you should go out on a date with anyone, esp. at this time because you are feeling very uncomfortbale with this. I don't blame you.

The only way to meet others is for someone to have a dinner party (not a couples party either) and invite different people, you know for fellowship.

I have had people suggest I go and meet someone but I am still married and I do not intend on breaking my vows.


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I'm not married anymore but I still feel like I would be breaking my vows also. When I married I married for life, now I'm really lost!

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This was really good as you might want to read it:

http://rejoiceministries.org/sf/view.php?id=459


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OH MWG!

I'm just sitting here crying! Thank you for posting that link to me. No wonder I can't give up on my H right now. I hope I'm not wrong!

You are wonderful!!!

(((HUGS)))

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nlt: I did not mean to make you cry. You have been crying too much............sending you hugs.


The Bomb: 08/05
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H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
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MWG, no worries, sometimes you just need a good cry. It was actually more an inspiration to read that & know that I've got to do what I feel in my heart.

I'm so glad you think of me & send me those things, it helps even if it does make me cry!

((((HUGS))))

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Now may not be the time for you to give up on your H. One day you may feel in your heart that it is time to move on but until then you still have hope.


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