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Well, the meeting's booked Wednesday lunchtime!

Thanks Dan, I will bear you in mind the next time I'm in the dancing mood - although the taxi ride home could be a bit expensive for me lol!


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i think thats a good idea- start casual with friend talk...then ask for his suggesstions for the $ and really listen...then you can state your point...but maybe he will have a great idea... \:\)


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Originally Posted By: JCJ
Any input would be greatly appreciated as always \:\)


My 2 cents--

I posted earlier that I think you should "automate" the account--direct deposits in from both of you and automatic bill pay for the stuff you share, and the rest in separate accounts--that way you don't have to stress, or depend on him to check on it.

(I think you could always figure out how to keep contact with him in other creative ways that don't worry you as much.)

I would play it like you have a plan for what you want, but ask him first for his suggestions and validate his answers. Be willing to be flexible in your plan for his ideas, and offer yours as suggestions and asks what he thinks.

I think you could be frank that you don't want to stress about this and you really need his help to figure out a compromise. And then let him lead, even if it drags out into multiple meetings about it.

Cause then you have more opportunities to be your cute self around him. \:\)


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Ok, my bedroom looks like my wardrobe has thrown up but I have finally identified an outfit lol! I'm feeling a little nervous about tomorrow but I am going to try and go with the flow!


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\:\) you look smashing im sure! i love trying to find an outfit! hysterical sometimes!
you will do great- just remember to really listen to him...let him talk and take the lead...but also tell him quietly and calmly what you need!


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Good Luck Julia- not that you need it! Be your wonderful, compassionate, listening, caring self and let him do most of the talking!

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BEST TO YOU SWEETIE!!! You'll be wonderful. Keep your cool, let him talk, but make sure you calmly tell him your needs too. You're going to be fine.


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Thanks guys, you encouragement means a lot! \:\)


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Just wanted to add my 'good luck' in here, too. You'll do fine.


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me tooooo \:\)


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