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My WAW wants a permanent no contact restraining order in place to replace the one that she wanted in place after I filed for divorce (hoping to convince her to talk). She is acting as if I were some monster when in reality she was the one that assaulted me and I suspect infidelity among other issues. The problem is that living in the same city, it just brings up too many possibilities of running into her. I am a good person. I loved her with all my heart. I'm hurt by her actions and don't feel they are justified.

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This Sun my WW said she was going to get a restaining order from me on Monday. She was home sick in bed all day Monday and I think today also. I have never been abusive rarely argued in the last 5 years. On Sat night I showed up at the house and OM was there and I asked him to leave. Really made her mad and I thought we were making progress. Now I feel we back at square one or perhaps done.


Me 42
w w 53
m 17 yrs
separated do to my addictions 8-8-07
d-day 12-20-07
ss 33
ss 30
sd 24
Adpt s 7

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Germ,

I'm sure it hurts, but what can you do but have no contact with her.

jd7,

Are you divorced? It's says d-day in Dec. If you're divorced, why would you ask OM to leave, unless he was in your house and not hers? Divorce eliminates the right for that kind of thing unless it's a danger to your children.


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But she is doing this because she knows that this will be the thing that hurts the most.

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Do you know that for sure?

That's all the more reason to not let it get to you. The best revenge is living well. Enjoy your life.


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my sitch/wife is moving at light speed. divorce papers filed, we are meeting w/realtor this wednesday. i continue to GAL but my children are really taking this hard. WAS is agreeing to most things I would like in decree. i will get kids every tues, & thurs overnight & every other weekend. also adding para about summer. is there anything important i may be overlooking concerning divorce paperwork?

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