Well I certainly hope I can b---- about my mil here. Where the hell else would I? God knows not to H or our kids....
She is still not attending d18's graduation b/c she won't leave her dogs. She repeated the statement to me, that "they [ie the DOGS] won't be around forever..." This is a woman who knows nothing about her grandchildren, and ours are her only ones...she and bil dropped off the face of the earth when H left and even now, as we are piecing--well--she has total amnesia about the past 22 months. Sadly, I don't.
Her loss. Besides, I should shut up and be glad she is NOT coming...come to think of it, we should definitely be careful with what we wish for....just hope d18 is alright about it. 2nd place to her dogs...Christ, what an idiot. She is missing so much, and it truly is HER loss... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
feel sorry for these people because they are being used and are only a bad substitute for the real thing. they are told lies and are being fed bullshit all of the time. they are the ones who will be hurt when this is all over.
are they being lied to as much as we are????? From my stand point she looks like she has it all....my husband...and all his money...
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
As we know our MLCers use many forms of feel good factors and as time goes on they realise that these feel good factors are not working. I was just wondering if anyone has any insight as to whether the OW is usually the last one to be looked at by the MLCer, is it only when all else as failed that the MLCer then realises that OW is failing to?.
I would appreciate any thought on this.
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
I honestly do not know the answer to that one as my H has been having an A for almost three years so her manly looks must look mighty fine to him!
Really, he told me last year that it was not her looks that he was attracted to it was that they had a lot in common.
Like what???? She zapped him with her self-pity stories and my H zapped her with his my father was always hard on me stories....
Everytime I insinuated that she was bi, he would never deny it and would never answer. She gives me the creeps. Although she does have two grown kids but still............
That sight is hard to remove from the brain once you have seen it!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well replay usually starts out small like new clothes, working out, new cologne etc. Then it goes to bigger things like ow but there is no rule. This is mlc after all. I know of some who went from ow to other things also.
So many of these replay behaviours occur simultaneously and then there is the fear of multiple ows. When the first one fails they move on to some one else.
I am sorry there is no real answer to any of this. There are not rules to mlc and how it all unfolds.
I used to tell my H that his EA/"friend" aka SHIM was actually a transvestite. Honestly, she looks more like a "shim". Everyone that sees her says the same thing, bi. Sickening really.
I have to admit that my H did not buy new clothes, wear cologne, buy something expensive it was and is just OW.
Just goes to show that there are variations.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I used to tell my H that his EA/"friend" aka SHIM was actually a transvestite. Honestly, she looks more like a "shim". Everyone that sees her says the same thing, bi. Sickening really.
Oh my gosh--maybe it is the same person. Is that wild or what???
Does SHIM have hair one inch high all the way around with that greasey stuff in it and spiked straight up? I have never seen her in a dress either.
It is sickening. My best friend was almost to the point of hyperventilating when she saw them in the parking lot at work and then she followed them to the park. This was Dec 05. NOt to mention OW opens his doors and she drives, etc.
This is funny but sick.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
