W told me she wants to meet up to talk before she leaves town again tomorrow. I asked her what she wants to discuss and she just said she wants to talk about herself and have me kindly listen. I’ve been re-reading the validation threads and mentally preparing myself to not be drawn into an R talk.
Should you go? What does you gut say? Trust your gut.
How much have you changed since BD? Has there been enough time for her to miss you?
If you don't meet her-- When will the next encounter be?
If you do decide to meet her, YOU lead. Pick a place that you like. Nothing romantic. Nothing with Sports Game TVs that will distract you. You tell her you have something important to do at 12, so you can meet her at 11AM. (or whatever time) This gives her one hour of your valuable time. You could make it 30 minutes. Get the idea?
For me, I never sit across from my lady. I sit next to her. You get there earlier than her and sit at the bar. She has to sit beside you. This is less adversarial positioning.
You STFU and listen. Validate her FEELINGS.
kindly listen= do not argue and do not share you point of view on things.
