I thought she was having a mid-life crisis but more and more I wonder if maybe she just isn’t the person I thought she was.
And what difference would it make if you knew it was option A or option B?
It matters not.
Trying to understand a WW/WAW is a ticket to the crazy house. What if I told you 1+1 = 3? Would you spend days thinking on it and trying to work out how I came to that conclusion?
I had real trouble with this, because I’m a problem solver in my job. I am trained to seek out facts, determine what (if anything is wrong), work out the correct solution and then apply it and then periodically take stock to make sure the solution is working. I approached my divorce the same way initially, and it’s a monumental waste of time. You can’t make sense of that which does not make sense. Once you get your head around that, you’ll DB much more effectively.
Read my thread on exercise, it has some stuff about rumination and why it’s not helpful. Better off spending that energy on things you can control.
