Your proposed reply to W regarding what day to pick up her things is fine.
Are you planning on being present?
Is she currently living in a different city? Is she flying in again? If so, it’s highly unlikely she will be packing up / taking much stuff.
Do you and her have separate accounts, credit cards, etc? Is the house owned, mortgage, or rented? How much are each of you paying towards the house and bills? What about her living expenses while separated? How much of your finances are joint?
It’s necessary for one to have a good picture of their financial situation. How much risk they are assuming. You may have already prepared (as much as one can), and do not need to take any further current actions to ensure your financial security and protection.
Have you spoken to a lawyer yet? If not, do so. Knowledge is power. This is for information only. You need not act upon anything. However, you will learn where you stand. What the default is, what is negotiable, and what is not. And do not tell W. Keep this information to yourself. For the time being, W is not on team URS, she is on her own team.
You are walking two paths. One is the business side of things. The finances, money and assets, as you have no custody issues. When dealing with business, remain business-like.
The other path is one of emotions, of healing and becoming whole. Becoming the best version of yourself. A man only a fool would leave. This is the bulk of one’s journey.
