Any thoughts on doing a R temperature check when BD 1 year anniversary gets here ...Is it a mistake to start a conversation about R status at least?
It’s always a mistake to start or participate in any relationship discussion post BD.
If your partner is thinking of wanting to try again, you’ll DEFINITELY know about it.
If they’re not being obvious about wanting to try again, there’s your answer - either they don’t want to, or they’re not ready to.
In terms of the 1 year timeline/boundary, that was for you - not for her. We don’t set boundaries like “if they don’t want back in after 1 year then I’ll file” as a means to controlling or forcing our spouse.
You chose to stand for 1 year, and now your 1 year is approaching. You choose what you want. Either you decide it’s worth waiting longer, or you decide you can’t be in limbo any more and you file.
