but should I keep making an effort to do dishes, cleaning more, etc.?Over these past two months she has recognized these efforts but obviously still didn't move the needle at all....Let me know what you think.
I was a house cleaning, dish washing ninja after BD. I pretty much proved that the items on the list were not the true reason. I was even more of a cleaning, dish-washing ninja after I moved out and had to do these things only for me and the kids. I kept my little rental house immaculate.
As LH19 said, do your fair share, no more and no less. If she is slacking, call her on it. Do not let fear control you.
If you think the house is dirty, clean it. If you don't, do something else productive with your time.
If you use dishes clean them. Let her clean hers. If she complaints, listen and understand where her frustration is coming from.
This is my new normal:
W:"Would you take out the trash?" Me:"Of course, would you mind getting me a glass of ice water?"
When I was single: Woman at the bar:"Would you buy me a drink?" ME":Absolutely, after you buy me one."
