Ginger, I successfully traverse the similar minefield that was placed before me. My kids’ Mom was no where close to as involved in their lives as little’s G’s Dad is in her’s, however take what you will and discard the rest.
It was not, and is not, my kids’ job or responsibility to the relationship between Mom and OM, or Mom and me. What mattered is how she treats them. I always communicated openly and honestly about anything they brought up. I didn’t hide or shield the situation and I did not pour gas upon the already burning and volatile events of their lives.
That speaks to forgiveness. My kids leant and then had to accept and forgive the person their Mom became (or maybe was). And yes, being they are half her, does place pressure upon them. They are also half me, and are loved and supported. And things turned out it would seem.
You read and walked beside me (off and on) and are familiar with my journey. I’ve shared lessons learned and mistakes made. Utilize as you see fit.
