Who Makes The Rules?

[GenuineG]

Hi Amy,

Yeah, 2:30 to 5:30 doesn't leave a lot of time to catch some ZZZ's But as the old addage says, "you play, you pay." I wasn't driving last night so I also indulged in a couple cocktails ~~~ J/K

The "reaction" lasted all of a couple of minutes this time. That's a good thing, huh? PMA is still very much intact. Thanks for your suggestion.

Hugs, GG

[GenuineG]

Hi Lauging,

This seems to be a first in "the way it goes" department for me.

I understand your point about wanting what you can't have and making him work for my attention. I kind of want him to KNOW "what he can't have", though.

I'm not sure that is the message he will get from silence either. I guess I no longer care to send messages anymore.

The real me would call him back but not right away (I am authentically busy this week) and my thought is it doesn't help to call and it doesn't hurt, so why not.

I'll be mulling that over...but not spending a lot of energy on it.

Hugs, GG

[jaybee]

Hi G

I have been having trouble with my phone/broadband connection cos of high winds so had missed your name change.

Well, well. I know exactly what Laughing means but my gut says go with your instincts of calling him back - when you have time of course - to let him know how fabulous your life is right now.

Great job, not smoking (?), great pool results, and best of all Mexico. Of course, you could be more than a little mysterious re who you are going with. Let him wonder.

Yep, my vote is be upbeat, be bubbly, be happy. Calling you at all means he was missing you and I bet life isn't all that rosy for him either. But be a creature unlike any other my dear and leave him wanting more and wondering how the h@ll he let you get away.

Looking forward to hearing about it!

Much love

Jayxxxx

[GenuineG]

Hi jaybee,

Thanks for stopping by and weighing in with your opinion.

I'm busted I'm no longer "not smoking." I plan to give it a whirl again as a New Year's Resolution.

I have tried imagining what a casual conversation with XH would be like as we really didn't have much of that over the past 2 1/2 years. I agree though, that upbeat and a little mysterious might be the way to go.

Heck, I may call an get his answering service and that might be the end of it...or he could be in a variety of less than appealing moods. No expectations. Boy, I haven't thought of the old "catch phrases" for a long time.

Hugs, GG

[Dmsw4]

Congrats G on all the wonderful happenings. You deserve all the best.

About XH, I'd wait to jump to any conclusions til after you talk to him...and understand that the moment he called may have been more opportune for him than when you call him back. YKWIM? "Hi XH, It's G...is this a good time?...How ya doin?"

[GenuineG]

Hi Mel,

Thanks for stopping by.

What conclusions are you referring to?

and understand that the moment he called may have been more opportune for him than when you call him back. YKWIM?

or he could be in a variety of less than appealing moods

I agree. That's what I meant by this.

I admit listening to the message a few times to catch the "tone." Last night it sounded basically cheerful to me but now it seems a little phony or masked after listening to it again. He "twitched" during the holiday part, also.

It's nice to hear from you again.

Hugs, G

[GenuineG]

Well gang, after the call on Tuesday I had a busy few days. I did some shopping and then Friday I went to "The Who" concert courtesy of my wondeful boss again! Last night I met a GF out to hear a local band. I'm a certified fan now.

So, I decided today was the day to call XH back.

It was really quite uneventful...

X: Hello, this is "XH's name"
Me: Hi, it's "my name"...I got your message so I thought I'd give you a call back.
X: Oh, I was just calling to say hi...how 'ya doin'?
Me: Good...how are you doing?
X: Good
Me: Is this a bad time?
H: Yeah, I'm out right now but I can call you back tonight...So, how is work?
Me: Great! I got a fabulous job that I LOVE!
X: Oh, that one in "name of town?"
Me: No, this one's in "other town"...I've been there since June.
X: Are you making good money? (that figures )
Me: Yeah, almost double what I was making at "old job"
X: Good! I'm really happy for you.
X: Are you working during the day, then?
Me: Yeah
X: Well, I'll call you back tonight...or tomorrow (hedging)
Me: O.K....but you should probably call me at "cell phone" number...
X: O.K., I have it in my phone. Well, I thought I'd call to see how you're doing...talk to you...
Me: I appreciate that...talk to you later
Me and X: O.K, bye, etc., etc.

That was it. Not much to it and I have the feeling he won't call back. He sounded cheery as did I. Whatever.

P.S. X asked if I still lived in "name of town."

Hugs, GG

[jaybee]

Hi GG

Well, Mellanie was certainly spot on, it wasn't a good time for him. Or maybe his mood was different, as we might expect.

He may have freaked himself out by venturing to call in the first place, but he did. He did.

And that is a strong message, whether he follows through or not!

He wanted to talk to you, he is interested in how you are doing, and he knows you are doing just great. So it's all good.

Isn't live music just the best way of enjoying yourself?

Jayxxx

[GenuineG]

Hi jaybee,

Yes, all things considered, it was a positive experience. XH cared, for a fleeting moment anyway, how I am doing and he wasn't nasty or indifferent.

The hard part will be filing it away and not expecting any more crumbs. I think I'm up for the task now, however.

I really did enjoy my musical weekend. I thought of you on both occasions also..."The Pretenders" were the opening band for The Who and they made a reference to Bob Dylan. Chrissie Hynde said that he was a great song writer and one guy that stayed in her life for many years, much to her surprise (versus the others)...being such a sexpot and all. (her joke) This proceeded them playing the song, "Forever Young." The Who cut out a little early because Roger Daltry had bronchitis. He was very apologetic but just couldn't continue.

The local band also made a reference to Bob Dylan and made me think of you again.

Hugs, GG

Note to self: X also asked if my car was still going O.K.

[GenuineG]

It's funny but it seemed like X was checking out all the "key" things to "locate" me...job satisfaction and location (though not precise), what hours I work, same car?, same house? No talking about himself this time. Just enough info that he probably has no inclination to call back. Whatever.

Hugs, GG