Just thought i'd drop by and see you for a change. That's great news that W asked you to go along with her to the function. I really hope that it goes well. How's everything else going, any other good signs?
Nope! I'm trying not to even bother looking at this as a"hopeful" sign. There have been many others that have turned out thus far to be dead ends. In the book I'm reading the author suggests its better to use the word "wonder" instead of "hope", it's more detached e.g. "I wonder if this invitation is a good sign" rather than "I hope this invitation is a good sign". She says that if you start to see a world of wonder rather than a world of hope you may be a happier person . I'll give it a whirl! I'm not being negative just trying to be open to whatever comes my way here. At some point, the many "signs" that appear presently to be but dead ends may actually turn out not to be BUT that is beyond my control. That's a future event that will be or won't be. I'll just try and be a witness to my life for awhile. Wow, grab me an incense stick, I think a new Buddha is born Thanks for checking in UL.
Sometimes little things remind us of why we are doing what we are doing. I found a note on my pillow tonite from my D8, it read "Dear Daddy, thank you very much for taking me trick-or-treating! I will love you forever" What more can you say, I think I'll go shed a tear now!
That is awsome that your D left you that note. They mean the world to us and you are right. That is one of the biggest reasons that we are doing what we are doing.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Hey, new sign! W came home tonite and told me over dinner that she had been talking about me at work today, telling co-workers about my cooking exploits! Obviously, there is some pride and recognition there and it was nice of her to let me know it. Nice feeling. It's funny how a small thing like that can make such a difference in interactions. I was going out and I think because of this "praise" I purposely sought her out to say goodbye (even though she knew I was going). I think this is much of what was missing in our R, she never bothered to give me these little boosts anymore and I got lonely (and being a guy, didn't realize it) and kind of withdrew. When I kickstarted my ass, it was too late. Well, hindsight is bullsh!t. Where to now? I'll just keep plugging away and enjoy the compliment as the gift it is, without further expectation. Wow, two nice things in a row here! OSU wanted some words of wisdom tonite, so here goes: "The bottom line is, stop catering to your feelings and allowing them to rule your life. Feelings are just feelings. They come and they go. Show negative or self-limiting feelings the door by ignoring them and taking action. Just do it..." Michelle Weiner-Davis from "Change Your Life and Everyone In It"
Congrat on the compliments. I might have to try some of your cooking.....
I wish it was that easy to show my emotions the door. It is getting a lot easier as the days go by. I am in a lo better place now than I was a month ago. I give all of the credit to you guys on this board for helping me out and giving sound advice.
What is for dinner tonight. You might have to overnight me some...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Quote: "The bottom line is, stop catering to your feelings and allowing them to rule your life. Feelings are just feelings. They come and they go. Show negative or self-limiting feelings the door by ignoring them and taking action. Just do it..." Michelle Weiner-Davis from "Change Your Life and Everyone In It"
That is so true - i've been trying to do this, sometimes i manage it and sometimes i don't. I now realise that we do have a choice, the trouble is it is going to take alot of practice.
Good to hear that things are more pleasant for you at the moment. Lets hope it stays that way.
You are really doing great!!! Excellent news!!! I would even bet that yesterday wasn't the only time she has talked about you - in a good way. See...things are going in the right direction for you.
You are more than likely, the next one to fly the coup, here, your DBing has been consistent. What a man!!!
