Quote: My vote is for the vasectomy. If you change your mind, it is possible to get it reversed, and there is always the possibility of adoption.
I brought up the option of getting a snip about 5 years ago - I thought it might improve our sex life - freeing us from the worry of birth control and not having to use condoms anymore - she told me I was a selfish ba$tard and we fought for an hour.
She knows darned well that she can get pregnant....much older women have often gotten pregnant without using BC. Her saying that she won't is simply irresponsible. Heck there are even women like myself who get pregnant using BC, granted I wasn't over 40 at the time....but still, you see my point. Makes me wonder if she isn't angling for another child.
Hi, kids....haven't been around much, but I do lurk occasionally. Sometimes I nearly fall off my chair reading some of these threads...the similarities in our situations is just astounding. ANyway, not to get off the subject too far, I can't just let this lie there:
Quote: My vote is for the vasectomy. If you change your mind, it is possible to get it reversed, and there is always the possibility of adoption. Hairdog
While it is true, you can get a vasectomy reversed, it is extrordinarily rare that this procedure will restore fertility...at least, what most of us think that means. (babies from sex!). sure, sperm will flow, but they won't likely work anymore. I won't bore you with the details...anyway, I've seen so many stories on this situation on the infertility boards that I used to frequent. typical scenario: a DH gets snipped for his first W...second W wants it un-snipped...still no babies...only hope is extremely expensive procedures that still only have a very slim chance of ever working, and won't be covered by any insurance because they're brought on by *voluntary* sterilization... point is: the "V" is absolute, and permanent. If you aren't on that bandwagon, don't do it. being able to switch back and forth (would be great!..but) is the stuff of silly TV drama.
