To wear wedding ring or not

[laBeans]

I haven't worn mine since he dropped the bomb and handed me his.

He's asked for it back and I decided that if he wasn't willing to actually work at saving our marriage.. he didn't deserve it.

I tried it on yesterday and oddly.. it's so big it fell off.

Sign?

[hurtingagain]

I took mine off the day H moved out. He commented later about "you know it's over when you're not wearing your ring". I came back with, "you ARE so right, you've never worn yours". We were married 23 yrs. Excuse I'm in consturction, but he never wore it when he dressed up or went out.

[Still_Standing]

So sorry to find you here with me. My W took off her ring the minute my A became known to her and she hasn't worn it since. It unnerves her that I had the affair and still wear my wedding ring. I have apologized profusely for my mistake and have pledged to work tirelessly to NEVER step outside of our M to have my needs met. My A, like pretty much every other A, only led to more problems. Of course it didn't solve any of my or my M's issues.

I am DBing with my DB brethren, not my S. But that's understandable after crushing the most sacred promise and turst of all. My W brings up my mistake semi-regularly and I ssincerely apologize telling her that she AND I have to live with my mistake and work it out in whatever way we are able to both individually and collectively. I crushed my W. I have never done anything so utterly and completely devastating to another human being, let alone someone I love.

I wear my W ring as a sign to myself and to her that I have not given up even if she has for now. I am a hopeful, hopeless romantic. I believe that God has forgiven. I also believe that the wounds in my W and in my M are beyond my ability to heal. I have let go and let God. While God is doing his work, I DB everyday because NOTHING deserves my effort, energy, focus and devotion more than my M, my W and my two beautiful, perfect children. I strive to reconcile my M and re-unify my family. There is no higher purpose for me.

I will pray that your sitch resolves itslf beautifully and that your M is reconciled and re-built stronger than ever, more loving than ever and more fulfilling for you, your spouse and your perfect innocent children. May God be with you in your honorable quest. Always remember, right is right. Always. Without exception. Be strong. Be good to yourself. Be exceptionally good to your innocent, perfect children.