Slowly and Suzyblue, thanks for checking in on me.
Well gang things have been wonderful in Halo's world. Xh and I are taking the time to get to know each other, we have a lot of fun together and have come a long way in just a few short months.
Last Friday we both took a day of vacation to spend quality time together and to get some things taken care of. Friday we also went to a wedding shower, the shower was for a couple of his old neighbors which means all of his old neighbors were there. I don't know if any of you remember but his XOw lives in "their" house and these people are her neighbors. The topic of most conversations were of how much they disliked XOw. They all wanted to know when "we" were going to move into that house, blah blah blah. I figured it would make me uncomfortable to be around "their" friends but it did not. Actually I felt a little bad for her. All evening I was introduced as "his wife", it was a great feeling. I hit it off with everyone and we received several other invitations to do more with these people. Saturday we went to a bar on the lake to see the band we follow, some of his family and friends joined us and we had another wonderful evening. Sunday we lounged around the apartment and listened to the rain. I ran out to get take out, he calls when I am out and asks me to pick up a listing of rental properties. We (ok really he has been) have been talking about living together off an on for the last few months. He has brought up this topic more and more over the last few weeks, now he made the first move. Looking for an apartment is confusing and exhausting. I finally called an rental property locator to do the work for us. She will narrow down our search so all we will have to do is go look at the select few and figure out which one we like better.
Xh has opened up so much to me, The ILY's are more frequent, and he tells me how much I mean to him and how happy he is, how he has to hear my voice before bed and shortly after he rises on night we do not stay together.
My friends here at work have seen the changes in me and are so happy for us. One of my closest friends told me that "we" were an inspiration to him. He is going to work on his-self, because he sees this is the start of a happy healthy life. Going to continue to kick back, enjoy the sun, and tropical drinks!
Lots of love,
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
It's been a while since my last post. Time for an update!
Things with XH and I are still a roller-coaster. Our R is progressing very well it's just Xow is still trying to screw up as much as she possibly can (she really enjoys messing with his head). I swear if I hear about her plans to move and leave him with the house again I am going to scream then I am going to say that I wish she would just do it and quit talking about it. Every one of our plans have fallen to the wayside due to the games she insists on playing. Is she just contacting him for randome acts because she has no life or is that she wants to see me pull my hair out? I really had all the more I could take yesterday, I kind of got emotional and told XH that he was acting selfish expecting me to put off all our plans for a "what might happen" situation. I basicially told him that if he wants the house he needs to refinance it and get it out of her name, that it is obviously upto him to get anything done about that situation. I also went on to complain about the way he has talked to me for the last couple of days, I explained to him that I treat him with respect and I expect the same. I do not want him to kiss my behind but a R is a give and take and I expect certain things as he does.
I know this is all wrong according to the DB handbook but it felt really good to finally say what I have been feeling, it felt wonderful to not be so passive aggressive for a change. So far things are working out to my advantage from our little talk last night.
I hope all of you are well.
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
Better to say whats on your mind than to keep it bottled up..
Again, here is another opportunity to see what you have in him commitment wise.. . If he wants her out of his life, he'll take the steps to do it, ESPECIALLY when he knows how you feel about her continued presence.. Refinancing her OFF the mortgage would be a big step toward doing so, I'm surprised you even have to remind him of that after all this time..
Hang in there and just try as best you can not to let her push your buttons, as I would venture to guess that is one of her intentions.
Wiley, Thanks for your continued support. One would think I would not have to remind him of how the present situation bothers me and it would be relatively simple to take her off the mortgage and get her out of our lives for once and for all. Afterall, he has asked my opinion and my feelings on refinancing the house in our name and I told him that would be fine. Not that I want to live there, nor will I be willing to live there for a long period of time I am more than willing to refinance, fix up and sell... That way everyone wins. LOL
On the other point, Xh has been very different (in a good way) to our situation since I let my feelings out... He has also been more aggressive on the present situation. Granted he has not come up with a definate plan of action but its a start!! Yippe
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
Slowly 
. If he wants her out of his life, he'll take the steps to do it, ESPECIALLY when he knows how you feel about her continued presence.. Refinancing her OFF the mortgage would be a big step toward doing so, I'm surprised you even have to remind him of that after all this time..