I can’t figure out how you had a confrontation with my friend and then weeks later, still pretending it never happened. You really need to work on this passive aggression with me. It’s not okay and has never been okay. And not only controlling me but trying to control my friend? And then saying nothing, taking no accountability- leaving it to me to bring up? I’ve done everything that I can do to be kind and patient with your process, as you continue to be stubborn and controlling. I’m so over it, and cannot wait to be divorced.
Well she's clearly angry. Try not to take the bait in some of the things.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I am considering what my action and path forward is. What am I able to do about her message?.
I can't find your old thread but you have been at this two years and you don't bring it up the word "divorce" often. Where are you in the divorce process? Do you have a lawyer? Are you stalling on any of the process?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
I have gotten good legal advice and I am certainly realistic and ok with divorce now. I haven’t retained a lawyer but I’m hopeful we can come to an agreement and then I would have L look things over before signing. We have been slowly negotiating separation of assets by email.
I have had legal advice conversations with L from the start and I did have one this time last year correct. I don’t have them on retainer at present but can arrange for them to look over documents before i sign,
I have had legal advice conversations with L from the start and I did have one this time last year correct. I don’t have them on retainer at present but can arrange for them to look over documents before i sign,
This is what I did. Though it may not fit all situations for sure. A little snooping on my part and I was much smarter on the law and finances than XW so I was sitting pretty good for negotiating with a reasonably cooperative WW who just wanted out to pursue OM in her passive aggressive way. I did refuse to sign anything or make the final mediation appointment until I had a legal review with a family law L recommended by a work friend. The L helped me understand the risks in the mediated documents based on several decades of L work. I ended up making very few changes.
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H:55 XW:50 D19, D18, S13 ILYBINILWY 3/23 DB1 4/23, rescinded 5/23, DB2 6/23 ("I can't do this, I Love HIM") Legal Mediation 1-5 & W leaves 8/23 – 3/24 Settlement 5/24, Court 9/11/24 <-, D 9/16/24
