I've titled this Act III. It's my third thread, and if my life were a movie or a play, I feel like it's now moving into its third act.
Act one was my life before meeting W. Lots of youthful discovery and excitement. Feeling the need for a companion as I matured.
Act two was my life with W. From when I met her until now, with the end of our marriage looming. Twenty-six years, mostly very good as far as I'm concerned. (Perhaps she would disagree, although she left behind many indications otherwise).
In the third act, there's uncertainty but also a lot of possibility. I am trying to navigate the uncertainty while embracing the possibility.
I remember the words of the wise philosopher Kermit the Frog, who said, "Life's like a movie; write your own ending." I'm determined to make that ending as good as I can make it.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
W got a dog. That would have been a better choice than an AP if she was lonely, IMO.
I have nothing against animals and had pets as a child and teenager but as my life got busier, they were not something I wanted to prioritize time and resources for. Not devoting the necessary time and care to an animal is tantamount to abusing it, as I see it. W likes dogs (her family members have had many), but early in our marriage she seemed to go along with the idea that they would be too much time given our busy lifestyle.
In recent years, she suggested an animal might be good for our younger son, who does well with them (and suffers from ADHD).
Now that I am soon to be out of the picture, she claims she has wanted a dog for "practically our entire marriage."
I guess this is more rewriting history and more remaking her entire life to be anything like it was with me.
The dog has been amazingly quiet and friendly. She seems to like me. When I am around, W says to the dog, "Say hi to Daddy," as if I were going to be around a lot longer to get used to being called her Daddy.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
SF, good to see you. Last time I stopped by you seemed to be doing great.
But I must caution you. You're reading things into stuff that may or may not be true. Remember, one day at a time. The minute you get caught up in the "oh she's calling me Daddy to the dog" you'll start to regress. As sandi used to always say "stay vigilant and do not give up your hard earned progress".
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I’m glad you are much better with this news than the last time. Indifference. That numbness, the muting of W’s shenanigans is kind of peaceful.
Against that void/numbness other feelings will seem larger than they are. And indifference does unwind. Just something to be mindful of.
Keep moving forward my friend.
Got your Christmas shopping done yet? I finished yesterday. Boy, the stores were busy.
D
Hello D and good to hear from you as always.
I am a bit stuck on a gift for S14. Trying to get more information from him. He asked for a MacBook, which is a tall order. I think he wants one because S18 got one for use at college. S14 has a school-issued Chromebook, which at this point in his life is really all he needs. For him, any electronic device turns into a video game device; he'd probably load up the laptop with those rather than use it for typical "computing" activities.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
Oh how the tables are turning x this is awesome Sunflyer to get into a position where you are the one feeling like the WAS not the LBS now. This truly is awesome. And even better that you can see what’s good for you and your values and morals
M:41 H:48 T:20. M:16.5 BD: 15/12/22 -moved out 17/3/2023
Ah, Kermit. A wise sage indeed.