I went with the advice to not be home when H returned. I came home a bit later and then left again to take D(16) to her bio mom's house.
While H was out of town I had gone to meet a (very platonic) male friend, to hang out and have some company. So H wanted to discuss how that made him feel, when I finally got home. (I've chosen to be pretty open with him about my whereabouts, so far.) I informed him that, as he is having an affair, there is really nothing to discuss about my activities. He alluded to wanting to discuss a future for us, but he was very tired from the trip and we have not had OR talk yet.
I have an overnight bag packed and in my vehicle, and my dad on alert that I may come spend the night. If he initiates talk, and what he envisions for our future R is unacceptable to me, I'll be informing him that I'm moving forward without him. He will be upset enough that I will need to let him cool down overnight.
I'm not willing to share, bottom line. I'm worth way more than that.
H 41 W 36 D16 S15--my stepchildren D11--biological M 6, T 13 Bomb/EA 1/19/23 Separated but living together
