Wayward Wife help

[FwdMvmnt]

Last post on text above. W just wrote back 2 more things. Thinking about how to answer because I easily could oblige with this request.

W- OK
W- Could you go at 9?

This is so she can hit the 8:00 meeting at her clubhouse. Although there are other meeting times today.

[LH19]

M,

You have young kids so there is going to be five or take for the next 15 years. You have to decide on how flexible you want to be.

[FwdMvmnt]

Thank you LH

[FwdMvmnt]

I know some of this may sound petty. She just texted again and said she’s going to walk downtown and be home in an hour. I had a 1:30 call scheduled, which I can still do but may get interrupted by S6. Do we just let theses things go or do can we say something?

[LH19]

You should probably come up with a schedule for who looks after D6. Then be out of the house when it isn’t you.

[DnJ]

Hi FM

It’s not uncommon for wayward spouses to become terrible parents. Forgetful, missed appointments, not keeping to a schedule, not concerned about your schedule, etc. For most things, ensure you have a back up plan in case she drops the ball big time.

You can discuss scheduling with W. Just keep your expectations low. Depending on how she is seeing things, she may feel that she needs to live her life now, and nothing is going to stand in her way.

D

[FwdMvmnt]

Thanks Again D,

Hearing a lot about just wanting to start her life. So what you say makes sense.

[Ready2Change]

I am 44 and she is 42. We have 4 children they are 22,19,16 and 6.

Hi brother,

The most important thing right now is the 6yo. The second most important thing is your relationship with the other three.

As others have suggested, get some type of parenting agreement on who's time it is to watch 6yo. 50/50 is best unless one of the parents is extremely f'd up. Keep track of any exceptions. Exceptions will occur and you should be flexible and available. If it becomes excessive, then you may need to address it.


Emails/text about parenting and other business is fine. No personal issues.

[FwdMvmnt]

Just found her buying lingerie on eBay, crazy [censored]. I don’t know how to handle this. I can’t believe she’s doing this out in the open.

[Rockon]

What are you telling yourself about it? Take a deep breath and tell us here about it. Don’t react.