I hate paying child support but I should get some more relief next year that will help my post D finances. Other than that there is really not much I miss about the X. But yes I agree....funny how it works.
1. J I noticed you mentioned wine for Wednesday. Ever consider a bottle of bubbly? It doesn't have to be French there are some great domestic producers.
2. Its not directed at me, but I selfishly want to respond to LH question. I would say yes mistakes were made. We can try dating if you want to start from zero, but what we had is gone. I like being alone although I do often wish I had the kids FT.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
2. Its not directed at me, but I selfishly want to respond to LH question. I would say yes mistakes were made. We can try dating if you want to start from zero, but what we had is gone. I like being alone although I do often wish I had the kids FT.
I think like DB and Athol Kay talk about it's all script because TF I probably would have said the exact same thing on your timeline. Wait another year it gets way better.
Child support is the only thing that [censored] for me right now My kids have enough activities during the week that I see them several times even on my off weeks. It is nice see them and leave them with no responsibility
I hear you like tonight my son has a game and it's the ex's night so I watch the game go home and make myself dinner while she has to make sure they are fed, HW done, showers etc.
A nice bouquet of flowers and a good box of chocoates. Generosity is sexy. Cheapness not so much.
A bottle of wine is more for a hostess when you go there for dinner. Jewelry is for when your exclusive.
You slept with her and your contacting each other every day, so if the intent is to pursue..do it right. Im surprised at the response to not send anything. I cant imagine any guy having luck with that.
I like wine or bubbly because it's something to be shared. It can mark the special occasion without being too special, but it can be very personal depending on how much someone is an an enthusiast. I dislike V day personally, it's just a hallmark holiday. Shouldn't every day with a partner be a V day at some level?
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
Your ex breaks up with her boyfriend calls you tomorrow and says she made a big mistake. What is your response? It's been about a year and a half, that is when I read they start to turn around and take a look.
It's been a bit over 3 years for me and I've seen no indication that my ex has looked back. She did have a hard time letting me out of her claws too. I was "her property".
Perhaps she thinks I'm still pining for the fjords.
More commonly what I've seen by reading other people's stories is that when they notice that we've moved on that it makes them nervous. But even though many stories are similar, they aren't the same. And it's pretty rare that they will admit to making a mistake much less put in the effort to make things right. I don't think that my own ex has the courage.
YMMV
PS - J9 - card and wine gets a thumbs up from here. No 2 Buck Chuck though - eh?
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
SO, J- why do you "hate" paying child support? I get hate paying alimony, but child support, I don't really get. With the calculation done, it's an amount to ensure your children are living the same life in either home. Not that mom makes a lot less money so we have to eat ramen at mom's house and have filet mignon at dad's sort of thing (as an example to make). Making sure your exW lives the same life I totally understand hating. Just not making sure your kids don't feel the financial burden in either house, ya know?
LH, exactly what Don said which is why I have a dislike for the coach. He says things that are universal common sense and makes money off of it? He is touted as a man who knows everything about women and dating when any joe schmo or an actual conversation with you mom will tell you. ANd he is kind of off base on the other things. But as Dawn said, to each his own and I won't hijack J's thread anymore with this.
ANd I really never met a woman who didn't appreciate getting flowers. unless she said she doesn't like them. But if she loves her wine like I do, it will be a win for sure.
