Thanks Jackie - H has booked a room for tonite (Motel 6 he says ) Anything more extravagant got knocked off the schedule by D's problems - otherwise we'd be heading to Bali right now Oh well, next year.
Sage - Boston got cancelled - but i know there are a lot ofEast Coast trips in the fall, if Boston comes up again I'll try to make it.
H got us a room at the most beautiful hotel in town - The Lodge at Torrey pines (yes, that beautiful oceanfront golf course everybody sees in the Buick Invitational in January which convinces all the Midwesterners to pack up and move here to San Diego!).
The hotel is an homage to Craftsman architects Greene and Greene, and an incredible amount of effort was put into getting the details right. Just beautiful.
We had strawberries and champagne on our ocean-view balcony, then H gave me the Hawaaian style gold and black bands he'd bought for the two of us Then I gave him the poem I wrote him about yin and yang, a yin/yang pendant made by the jeweler who made our original wedding bands, and a book of love poems by Rumi. We had a great dinner at the hotel restaurant and the next morning we took a nice hike down the cliffs to the beach and back in neighboring Torrey Pines State Park. Just fabulous all the way around
Hi all - busy week - D13's cousin just left after 10 day visit, D13 got a teeny little kitten two days ago and is obsessed with mothering it, H's 31 yr old cousin came into town yesterday for a visit (great guy, my kids love him) and today I'm watching my girlfriend's two year old (she's just realized her H is too bizarre right now to be trusted with watching him - her H had a severe brain injury several years ago, was doing well but has been going downhill the last year - thought it was depression but now we think maybe Parkinson's or some other neurodegenerative disease - he's seeing neurology next week).
I'd forgotten how much work kittens and two year old boys were!
Glad things are going more smoothly for your D. How nice -- kittens are the cutest! Sounds like a happy, if hectic, time for you.
Thinking of you as I begin an exercise plan. Need a goal like your Mt. McKinley one. Hmm... I'd be satisfied to ride my bike to the store and back, but that's not very exotic...
Thinking of you, sending some SF fog -- also 3 woofs at the kitties.
Okay - just have to vent here a little. Tonight we are entertaining h's new fellow - who will be working closely with him (under him) for the next three years. He had already warned me a while ago that she broke the "nanny rule" - the rule I used to have when my kids were little that I wouldn't hire anyone as a nanny that I thought my H might conceivably find attractive.
So anyway - he had invited her to a "welcome dinner". No sweat. Then this afternoon he calls to let me know she's coming over early to go surfing with him before dinner (we all remember how OW hooked my H by pretending to be interested in learning to surf, right?). So I take S12 to his guitar lesson, pick up groceries for dinner, and start dinner while they surf. When they show up, she's with her roommate - a good-looking guy, and I start to feel a little foolish, until I realize they really are just roommates - nothing more. Roommate leaves, we all have dinner - the fellow seems nice enough, but not overly friendly to me in that reassuring way some women have of making sure you know they are not interested in your H She's 18 years younger, as thin as I was before children and thyroid disease, and very interested in the sports my H engages in.
Okay, I'm holding my own - really, I don't suspect my H of a thing., I'm just not happy at the prospect of three years of watching my back, and unhappy about my H having had the affairs in the first place that make me be this suspicious person instead of the normally easy-going gracious woman I am.
Now they are doing some work together at the other end of the room, and it's clear that she's very bright to boot - not brighter than me, but she's in my H's field. And I'm here venting to all of you about HATING being in a position where I even have to think about possibilities like that, because it is SO not like me to be a jealous person, in fact that's probably why I was blindsided the way I was before, because I was so confident and trusting. YUCKKKK!!!!! I have sticky affair residue on my shoes and I can't get it off!!!!!
On the brighter side - I get to go to Chicago with my H for the weekend and I'm having lunch with Manisha (AlmostGone) on Saturday
Ellie, I very much sympathize.....Your H is attracted to young & bright young things, eh? Hard to compete with younger versions of ourselves, isn't it?
What would it take for you to feel less, ummm, slimed in the next 3 years?
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Oh well, next year.
