LOL G.....I am a total over analyzer. I get it from my mom
This girl we had our first date on Saturday about 6 hours after she reached out to me on the APP. She is a Finance Director for SW Airlines so I can't imagine her not being able to shut her office door and fire off a 30 second text.
So IDK. It just seems crazy that she buys me brunch on Sunday and we almost get it on in her kitchen to now radio silence.
I guess that is possible but her responses come across as very dismissive. For example, "Sorry I missed your call, I am working late tonight". Ok great......she could have said after that......I will call you on my way home or I will give you a call tomorrow. Don't just make the statement then radio silence. She knows she dismissed me.
But she could be doing it to test me and/or to pull back as she has had time to reflect.
This is EXACTLY what I was talking about earlier when I was talking about different perspectives because to me her response didn't seem dismissive at all. Like G said, maybe she didn't say "I'll call you later" or whatever because she truly didn't know when she'd get that chance and she didn't want to seem like she was blowing you off. But, that is the issue I have with text. There is NO context so however you perceive it is how it is. It was not sent to me so it is easy for me to say oh she didn't mean it dismissively, while you are IN the scenario so it is much easier for you to think that it is dismissive.
Regardless, pinn is right...go to the gym, go for a run, go read a book, go cook something, go take a cold shower, go do whatever it is you do to occupy your time and more importantly your MIND so that you will stop thinking about it for a minute.
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All good points......I am better now. I played basketball this morning and my oldest has soccer practice tonight but tomorrow morning I will be at the gym
Reading down here something came to mind. Seems like the movies ‘swingers’ and ‘he’s just not that into you’ should be manadotry homework before posting down here :-)
Alright...feel better today, got a great workout in. With that said I need some advice from you OLD experts.
Her OLD profile is now offline, she did not contact me yesterday and our last correspondence was our text exchange and missed call on Monday. She hasn’t ghosted me or told me she was done but she is not reaching out either.
The attraction was obvious and she felt comfortable enough with me to be alone in her house with me on our second date so there were no signs from her at all that she had any concerns.
So do I stay no contact forever and see what happens or do I reach out to her on Monday which would be a week for our last brief conversation? Or since she took her profile offline assume she met someone else and just keep on keeping on?
Well... if your choices are no contact forever or wait until Monday... how about just wait till Monday and decide then?? If you come up with some grand plan to contact her Monday... you are going to be focused on that for the next 5 days. Just let it flow... what will be will be.
I won't hurt to contact her one more time on Monday.
lesson learned. 1 date per week until she starts reaching out. If she has been single for awhile, you came on a little strong and she may have felt like she was going to lose her freedom.
Right...lesson learned, it's a good thing I recognized and tapped the breaks early. Unfortunately she sucked me in with how she was talking to me then she pulled back obviously without telling me. I guess most guys would have continued to pursued so it's definitely good that I was self-aware after how she corresponded with me on Monday.
If she was done I don't think she would have responded to me at all...she would have just ghosted me or texted back telling me she was moving in another direction.
I think I read between the lines, like I didn't do when I was married
