Financially my sitch was very similar to yours. My wife started business but used her personal credit (BAD). So after the business started to fail we had to separate finances to protect our family finances. Also when my daughter was born, we agreed she'd quit her job and stay home fulltime. For a few years things were really tight, so that got me into a habit of really watching our spending.
On BD she said she felt like a child and I was her father when it came to spending. Which was true sometimes I guess, but unless she was going crazy I generally left her spending alone. The only time I would fuss was when I would drop $300 on groceries, and the next day she would go out to eat with my daughter.
Admittedly I needed to lighten up a lot around spending, and I have now.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I don't know, she might have something on you. There's been a nasty rumor going around that you eat your own boogers. That's so gross.
Dude... Have you tried one of these things? They're delicious! I've got more where that came from. Hit me up if you're hungry...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Financially my sitch was very similar to yours. My wife started business but used her personal credit (BAD). So after the business started to fail we had to separate finances to protect our family finances. Also when my daughter was born, we agreed she'd quit her job and stay home fulltime. For a few years things were really tight, so that got me into a habit of really watching our spending.
On BD she said she felt like a child and I was her father when it came to spending. Which was true sometimes I guess, but unless she was going crazy I generally left her spending alone. The only time I would fuss was when I would drop $300 on groceries, and the next day she would go out to eat with my daughter.
Admittedly I needed to lighten up a lot around spending, and I have now.
I totally got the "you make me feel like a kid and you're my dad" talk too. I've done better with it also. At the time, it drove me nuts. Every time she said I treated her like a kid, I just wanted to say "Stop acting like one!", but that wasn't going to do anything but make things worse. I've come a long way since then. Live and learn...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Dude... Have you tried one of these things? They're delicious! I've got more where that came from. Hit me up if you're hungry...
Maybe I'll try one. Do you have any dipping sauce?
Give me a few minutes and I'll crank some out for ya...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Got a phone call from a friend of mine this morning. He was actually one of the groomsmen in my wedding. Said he ran into W last night at the bar and she was really drunk. He owns a restaurant and she was asking for a job. He said she turned the waterworks on and said she's applied everywhere in town, but no one will hire her. She claims no one will hire her because of me and my parents. (not sure what that even means) He told her he wouldn't give her a job. She has worked for him twice before and let him down both times. So she went from sad victim mode to extreme anger and rage ans started cussing him out. He e got tired of listening to her and told her all her problems have been brought on by herself, to take responsibility, and quit feeling sorry for herself. Then she goes on to tell him that I am abusive and beat her and the kids. Accused me of slamming her head in a car door on Mother's Day, and other random lies. My buddy left and got a call a few minutes later from the bar owner who apologized to him and told him that my W was going to be barred from there. This was actually the same place she worked at before she got fired...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Got a phone call from a friend of mine this morning. He was actually one of the groomsmen in my wedding. Said he ran into W last night at the bar and she was really drunk. He owns a restaurant and she was asking for a job. He said she turned the waterworks on and said she's applied everywhere in town, but no one will hire her. She claims no one will hire her because of me and my parents. (not sure what that even means) He told her he wouldn't give her a job. She has worked for him twice before and let him down both times. So she went from sad victim mode to extreme anger and rage ans started cussing him out. He e got tired of listening to her and told her all her problems have been brought on by herself, to take responsibility, and quit feeling sorry for herself. Then she goes on to tell him that I am abusive and beat her and the kids. Accused me of slamming her head in a car door on Mother's Day, and other random lies. My buddy left and got a call a few minutes later from the bar owner who apologized to him and told him that my W was going to be barred from there. This was actually the same place she worked at before she got fired...
She is just bouncing up and down at rock bottom now.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
W tried calling a bit ago. I didn't answer. It blows my mind that she goes around saying things about me like she did last night. She knows she's lying, but I really think she's gotten to the point where she believes her own lies. It's really messed up...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
I was wondering... The next time I talk to W do I bring up the fact that she is making these false accusations against me and call her out, or do I just ignore it?...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
