I think you need to respond about your S, but I would just let the swimming part lie. You need space.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
Just keep POSTING (on this thread) and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
I have read the DB book & only post to the forum using my phone which is password protected. I have been separated from H since September 2017 & am getting to the point when I think maybe I am better off on my own.
H said he couldnt see our youngest this weekend as he was going away with a male friend. Yesterday he sent my daughter in law a friend request on FB so she could see all the pictures he had posted with OW including this weekend. He then unfriended daughter in law and blocked her on FB within a few hours. H likes to play psychological games but I am not going to respond to anything he has done or mention I know he has lied to our son. He spent 14 years of our relationship in AA but has now decided he is not an alcoholic so is drinking again.
I am trying to maintain detachment which is what I think I should be doing. Any tips welcome!
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Do not use apostrophes. That cleared it up for me. Beware of auto-correct on the phone.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
I am starting to lose hope. My therapist is saying H is emotionally abusive. Made the mistake of calling him and he is away with OW and has now turned his phone off after we argued. Feeling very down.
