Update- when WAW found out I was staying at her sibling’s house when I was not in her house, she asked that I not stay there because it made her and family uncomfortable. The sibling and I both thought I could stay there, but WAW said not now. I agreed to stay in hotel instead, but an hour later WAW says it’s ok as long as I give her notice. At this point, I don’t know if I should stay there after this blowup. Any advice? Thanks.
My WAW’s birthday is coming up. We’re separated for 8 months now. I will be in the MH the day of her birthday with her family and our kids. What is an appropriate gift to give? Flowers, a card, a gift just from the young kids, or perhaps letting her know you’ll not join because you not being there is probably what she wants the most?
Edit - Post merged into your thread - best to stick to one thread until 100 posts - I would not send a gift! - Cadet
If a WAW offers for you to stay at her siblings house during a separation, would you accept or live in an apartment, keeping in mind an apartment will be trying financially for you? If apartment, would you move items from MH?
Thank you Helena. I am leaning towards staying at the relatives house. It is a cheaper option for me at this time. What surprises me so much is that her family does not appear to want to get involved in this sitch. If my WAW were my daughter, I would be all over her questioning why she is making this decision and recommending she give it another chance. What makes no sense to me is why a WAW who says she wants a divorce want me to stay at her relatives house? And why does she not just file when I tell her I wont object? She is becoming colder and colder to me, really testing my patience and resolve. Do borrow from a DBr I feel I've made myself into someone only a fool would leave..
Update - there was a misunderstanding of both me and sibling when I could stay at WAW siblings house and it resulted in drama. Long story short, I stayed in a hotel for those days. But from witnesses, WAW was visibly angry that I would be staying somewhere that she did not approve of. Sibling sided with me and will let me stay there as much as I need and within an hour WAW was ok as well with it. Somewhat surprised by how angry she got over this. I guess I am wondering why she is getting so angry now anyway. I basically said I would not fight her if she files and am willing to pay child support and follow a visitation schedule. Any reactions?
