I would move back in, do you pay the mortgage? Do you pay the bills? Since she is the one that wants out, she should be the one to leave. Don't make this process easy for her.
She pays the mortgage and I pay the bills. She makes 3 times what I make.
Me: 43 Wife: 37 2 Kids: (8yr old B, 5yr old G) OM Discovered Mid Aug '17
I would move back in, do you pay the mortgage? Do you pay the bills? Since she is the one that wants out, she should be the one to leave. Don't make this process easy for her.
She pays the mortgage and I pay the bills. She makes 3 times what I make.
Can you afford to pay them on your own, at all?
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Did she kick you out? If not go back home, to your house, is your name on the loan? In a marriage property is communal. Don't worry about how much she makes.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
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well the mortgage wouldn't be much more than a nice apartment (nice with xtra room for the kids) so I could swing it for a while but it would really tap me for any extra income. Not to mention if I am moved out for a while I will most likely have her take over the utilities which would make the apartment life much more affordable.
Me: 43 Wife: 37 2 Kids: (8yr old B, 5yr old G) OM Discovered Mid Aug '17
Did she kick you out? If not go back home, to your house, is your name on the loan? In a marriage property is communal. Don't worry about how much she makes.
she didnt kick me out. I moved out a few weeks ago and at that time she didnt like the idea (even though she wanted space) but the home life and the sneakiness was killing me. Anyway, that lasted about 4 days and I was back. After being gone she didnt really want me to move back in, she said she wanted her space. I moved in anyway. Then when I discovered the sneaking off and being with another man (still unsure of the extent but at the very least her intentions are not good) I asked for a Divorce and I moved out for the 2nd time. Currently just staying with a friend while apartment searching. After being away for a few days I no longer want the divorce, at the present time and for the family I dont like the thought of just giving up. Now that I have moved out twice in 2 weeks and asked for a Divorce last Friday and then changed my mind on Tuesday. Do I just move back in? Even though I feel that this space may be helping, I really dont know I just get the feeling that it is. Me being at home with her is just awkward because it is nothing like it was when we loved each other. So if we need to be in seperate homes and its her wanting space and her seeking other relationships should I ask why she isnt the one moving out? Even though me taking on the mortgage, keeping the bills would be critical to my funds, not to mentioned my work schedule doesn't cooperate with the kids school schedule very well.
Me: 43 Wife: 37 2 Kids: (8yr old B, 5yr old G) OM Discovered Mid Aug '17
I guess, a good question is do you want to go back home or do you want to stay in a apartment? Because the statement below says you rather be in an apartment.
Originally Posted By: Don23
Originally Posted By: Jmstl
Can you afford to pay them on your own, at all?
Not to mention if I am moved out for a while I will most likely have her take over the utilities which would make the apartment life much more affordable.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
I guess, a good question is do you want to go back home or do you want to stay in a apartment? Because the statement below says you rather be in an apartment.
the only thing that wants me back home is the kids. i am a better father than she is mother. I do get to see them every day and have been taking them on the weekends so I get a lot of good quality time. I just hate the times I'm missing with them. I feel like they think I am choosing to leave them too since I was the one that left and not mom. I was even asked by my son why mom doesnt move out. If there were no kids I would have no problem staying in the apartment.
Me: 43 Wife: 37 2 Kids: (8yr old B, 5yr old G) OM Discovered Mid Aug '17
You didn't answer my question, DO YOU (I'm not screaming at you) want to stay in a apartment? If you want to be at home with your kids. Go back home. It's your house. You can live in the house and finds ways to get out and spend the least amount of time around her. Read up on GAL(Get a Life) and detaching. I'm still in the home with my wife and I have all kind of things going on. I went hiking on Tuesday night and to a New Comers Brief Wednesday night. I'm doing landscaping around the house that keep me outside on the days I'm at the house. You can live in the house with your W.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
