You'll find that no matter what you do, you'll have setbacks. It's because you're in a no-win game. The only way out is to stop playing the game. Go out and GAL and start creating a good life for yourself.
Don't be too hard on yourself regarding past mistakes on how to handle things. Slip ups happen! The good news is that you are recognizing the slip ups and are learning from them.
It sounds like your changes have been noticed, just difficult to believe at this point. These changes need to be made for you and your kids. They need to be long lasting and sincere. Prove that to yourself and anyone else through your actions, not your words.
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You'll find that no matter what you do, you'll have setbacks. It's because you're in a no-win game. The only way out is to stop playing the game. Go out and GAL and start creating a good life for yourself.
No truer words have been spoken on here...
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I have started the GAL, I have cut the Cuda to pieces as a way to relax, putting new metal on her and getting it pretty! We joined a gym, started working out together. That is a lot of fun! I love playing racquetball with her! I am going to take swimming lessons (can't swim, never really liked the water)
I see where I make the mistakes. I am trying to rectify that situation. but every time I do it she sees the old me and it is a setback, understandable.
we did go to lunch today. it was awesome, she cuddled a bit. we kissed a few times!
The changes that I have made are for my children and myself. I needed the change in order to better myself. My kids didn't deserve the grumpy, complacent person that I had become. There really isn't any reason I can't approach any situation with a smile on my face and a happier outlook than before!
I only hope that the W notices the changes that I have made. She appears to have, but I don't know if change is enough to overcome the years of hurt for her.......
I like preparing for the worst, but just hoping the outcome would be better than the worst. I try to remain hopeful without giving myself false expectations. It's a fine line.
Hope you get a good break and enjoy some time "off".
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
If I could post pics here I would show just how much metal I have cut off of the car lol
I am not too sure what I want to do this weekend that I have 4 days off. Can't really spend all the time on the car....maybe a trip is in order? go see some of the scenery around here that I haven't seen. Buy a tent and go camping? I don't know but I will figure it out.
I took an impromptu trip to Idaho to see the kids, they are at their grandparents place while things try to work themselves out at home. It was an amazing weekend. went and saw a few movies. bowling, and a few arcades.
