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Any suggestions?

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She's cheating on you with the new best friend.



The future is as bright as you demand it be.
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Wish I had a suggestion. I know its painful. Im facing a similar realizatiin that its over and i just need to focus on the next chapter of my life.
Most importantly, practice forgiveness and dont harbor resentment (i'm saying this to you and me).


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11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
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My suggestion is to ensure that you are protecting yourself in the divorce agreement. That is first and foremost right now. I highly suggest you have an attorney review it.

You need to take a stand for yourself. You are the only one who can do it. Do not let her manipulate you. You cannot trust her.

I would fight to have shared custody and I would definitely have the attorney run the numbers on any spousal/child support. Knowledge is power.

Btw, she has her own set of problems that she needs to work on. This isn't all on you. Fix what is within your control. Of course after you see an attorney if you haven't already.


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Originally Posted By: TxHubby
She's cheating on you with the new best friend.




The new best friend has went back to her husband. That's the crazy part.

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So I should turn my attorney loose on hers and fight for what's right? I do feel like she is trying to manipulate me on to signing l, even tho I don't agree. I just don't want to ruin any future chances.

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If you don't agree to the settlement then don't sign it. She wants you to rush but you have your own legal rights. Get a L and exercise them. This affects the rest of your life. Also, read and answer CT's questions above.


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2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
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CT....to answer your questions:

I did start to drink a little more than I should have.....mostly situational
The spending is all business related for equipment purchases, she never could grasp being 1million or more in debt at all times. Which is understandable.
Never ever even thought about cheating, although she thinks I did when I was in Costa Rica earlier this year. (Some of the other guys hires escorts) I was on a totally different floor of he house and had no involvement whatsoever.

I really don't know what she doesn't trust other than that. I feel we had an above average relationship. We did argue some and she would metion relationship stuff when she was mad but that's it. I just saw it as nagging. Guess I was wrong on that one.

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Still pushing hard on me signing settlement, feels like there is a reason for it. Maybe OM? Any ideas?

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Still pushing hard on me signing settlement


There most definitely is a reason. She wants out.


There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
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