Let me make it thru the next 4-5 days and we will see. Thanks. I respect everyone's opinions and advic here. I am just having a problem checking my feelings at the door. I guess that is why standing for your marriage and your spouse is the hardest thing to do.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
Keep pushing off a date to start is like making sure u hit every buffet and Dublin donuts before going on a diet "next week". That much more damage can be done and time is lost.
Regardless, this has to do with your kids. They want u there. We live a couple hours from Disney and go often...it's a big enough place for you and your w to be there together. I would hate for you to look back in 4 'on the and wish u spent the time with the kids.
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
I may have to self medicate to deal with all of the drama...it's like a bad soap opera and I'm one of the stars of the show.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
You will handle yourself exactly how you choose. You control it. Doesn't matter what the other "actors" are doing in the show. You are the lead actor and the only actor in your 1 man show. Is it going to be a family movie or a horror show? Up to you!
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
Nothing wrong with medication. Remember do what you need to to get through it. SURVIVE.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
I'd like to say that being away from home with several good friends totally gets my mind off of the situations at home. I find myself drifting to thoughts of WHY. It drives me nuts not to know why, even though I know that I cannot make sense of her reality right now. Hope everyone has a great weekend.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
Long weekend away was kind of nice. The down side to whitetail hunting is that there is alot of time by yourself with time to meditate and think. I wish I could say that I had an epiphany during the weekend, but I did not.
When I arrived home my three kids were all at my house. It was nice to see my oldest, but he wanted to talk. It seems that he has picked up on how fast things are going in the D direction with my W. He said that things seem a bit odd at how happy she seems about everything happening. We only got to talk for a little while, but it seemed like he is just as confused as I am. I told him that I would not talk about alot of what is going on with him, but that I was concerned about his mother and did not want her getting hurt.
The oldest had to head back to school, so my two youngest wanted to go to the movies...great time had by all.
I am still confused about all of what is going on, but I feel that I am coming to a place of acceptance. Acceptance that:
[list] [*] I am not the one causing this. I am not the one wanting out of our marriage. This is her divorce. I own my part of our marriage and realize that I can be a better man & husband. I am willing to make our M work if that is what she wants to do. I will stand for my M for as long as I can...and pray that God will let me know how long that is. I have to detach from her.
I hope all are well...have a great day.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
[*] I am not the one causing this. I am not the one wanting out of our marriage. This is her divorce. I own my part of our marriage and realize that I can be a better man & husband. I am willing to make our M work if that is what she wants to do. I will stand for my M for as long as I can...and pray that God will let me know how long that is. I have to detach from her.
And which of the above do YOU some control over?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
