Altair, he's been asking for space since the beginning but i think he is just using that as an excuse and he has made his mind up that he doesn't want to work at the marriage. He has made no effort to stay in contact with me at all, any contact is usually initiated by me or my daughter. I just don't know what to do anymore...
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Thanks -- I could picture it (partly thanks to watching Broadchurch).
The way I make sense of my W's actions is: selfish, self-absorbed, self-centered, self-focused. Whatever nice thing she does, it's to make herself feel better about what she's doing. It all starts w/ herself. It's not about others.
That probably doesn't help you feel any better. Sorry.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
You pretty much hit the nail on the head Gump. Same as Blu and everyone else has been telling me. I just need to start getting strong and stop having soppy thoughts about him!
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Hang in there Coly...Its hard when you love your S and they seem to not give a crap....My W is selfish and self-centered as well....she texted me "so I go to the surgeon today to find out what is next (she has a back problem)..do you want me to text you what they say? This is all after I was emotional on Monday giving her one last chance..grrrr...why did I do that???? So its all about her....
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
Oh Hawker, it just doesn't seem to cross their minds what they are put us through. Everything seems so matter of fact in their little world. They get to stop caring about us but no way ib the world would they consider that we can stop caring about them!
Just backslid and texted H to ask if he is watching the Great British Bake Off which we loved to watch together. No response....
Gump- Years & Years are a fairly new group. Google them, I love their music!
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
I know Cheesy, I am so annoyed with myself! How can he be so nice to my face, buy me chocolates and take us out to dinner for my birthday, but ignore a simple text, I just don't get it! Is it his way of saying that I am not important to him anymore!
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
I agree with cheesyt, don't give him the privilege. It's so so hard, like you say. It feels impossible when you have so much love for them but they don't care, they just care about themselves. His silent treatment annoys me. He's walking around, and I look at him and I feel both the rush of love and pain at the same time. I have to bite my tongue a good lot of the time to say anything
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
