Many will spend a lifetime seeking peace out there. Peace is a state of mind that can come from within. Look within yourself and you will find answers, joy and peace.
Ohmmmmm....
SH, are you a Zen master in disguise? Or Yoda in disguise?
If I get to pick, then I pick Yoda.
He is one of my fictional Hero's.
"Do, or do not do, there is not try."
This is a quote that all LBS, must follow.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
Greetings, I doubt many remember me. I am just checking in. We are still in the in house separation. I don't see this getting better between us. I had a friendly talk with her about it in July. She has no interest in me or the marriage. I have began to socialize by myself. It feels weird going out alone but it is my reality. I will come by again to let you know I'm alive . Best of luck to all of you.
Glad you dropped back briefly. Please stop having R chats with W. All that does at this stage is strengthen her resolve that it is over. It is over for now and words will not change that
I am glad you are getting out. I know that can be awkward ubut you will find people you want to spend time with and it will become easy/easier.
Hope to hear from you soon
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Long time no speak brother. I commend you for giving W and the M another opportunity. You have always been a determined and understanding person, and have done your best to make it all happen and to R, you should be proud of that. I continue to wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide, you helped me when I was at my worst and for that I am very grateful.
As for me, I have my own place, a new position at work, things with W are better than they were, I stopped getting into her business, I accepted that right now its not the right time for R, we should build on the friendship that her and I both hurt, and work as a team for our little ones. I don't know if this is the right approach, I haven't given up on R, which could be a problem, as someone on this thread mentioned that in letting go, you'll find your answer, so I am working on that. Again, I wish you the best my friend, you truly deserve it.
God Bless
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Hello dear friends, I am well. I hope this post has found you the same. I have nothing to report and everything. I have let go of my desire for "happy ending" with my wife and our marriage, it is so freeing. I am thankful for each and every moment with my kids. They represent the good of my marriage and I honor it by honoring them.
I have taken what I have learned through this experience and now walk with my eyes open into my future enjoying each moment along the way. I have learned that waiting for your spouse to wake up and come back to you is emotional masturbation. I view my wife now through unfiltered lenses and realize I can not span this chasm alone. If I could, I am fairly certain I do not want to. I am not that man any more. I have seen and experienced to much to blinding race down that rabbit hole.
The best thing you can do for yourself and the marriage is to stop trying to save it. Improve yourself, love your kids and treat all in a kind and compassionate way. Kindness to yourself and others is answer to what to do each moment. You may not save your marriage but you'll save yourself.
Your marriage is not the end of the book, it's the end of a chapter. Turn the page and move on, your story is going to get better. That's all I got for now, I'll be back
Wonderful words. glad you made the effort to post. I'm close to how you feel - still dealing with pangs of the heart, echos of the marriage. I'm a survivor, and love being with my kids and making sure they're loved and cherished!
Keep posting. Would love to hear more.
Trumpet
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
So what does your new found freedom look like? Glad you are at peace. Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Or Yoda in disguise? 
