My Wife Walked Out 5

[RSG]

Just a thought, but how about boxing up all of her stuff and give her a box each time she drops off son? I would just tell her that I know it's tough not to have your things when you need them..

As for the tattoo, I agree that it would represent a bad time, wether things work out between you two or not... Wait until you feel the dawn of a new day, then decide.

I know she has a ton of girly products in my bathroom, and I'll bag that up and offer it to her next dropoff.

As for the tattoo, thanks for your confirmation.

As for tonight, interestingly no contact from her. I haven't felt had an itch to say anything either....

[MMM1919]

When my husband left, I flipped out about something small he took from the kitchen. It wasn't the item I was mad about, it was that I felt so violated. He took the item to make dinner for the other OW.

I threw a childish fit (not proud) and he ended up returning it.

[RSG]

Not long after I wrote this she said "It was due to S taking his vest on and off. I should have known better." Two or so hours later, I text back "I'll keep aloe on him and make sure he's ok. Enjoy church tomorrow."

I found out she quit Facebook. I was looking for a picture of S and I, and her name is blacked out and unavailable. Tons of pics of S are now gone, unless she turns it back on. She used to post them herself, saying "with" me. Wow. That really hurts, all those memories of my boy.

[CT1118]

Buddy, FB can be some evil sht in the hands of a WW. My WW has so many lies about her life on there (according to FB she attended the same university as her OM - she went to community college and never finished in the real world). She blocked me a while before the A went from EA to PA, did you get blocked? Cant see sht once they have your name blocked. If you google WW's name and put FB after it and see an active account, guess what - blocked. You don't need to see her sht anyway. That picture you were looking for is most likely still in her phone anyway. Better or worse one day, you will be able to ask for it.

But FB bs is not why I started to reply - your DB skills dude. She gave the apology. So what I see in that - she left a scene like a jerk, you acted like a man and called out her bs. She was thinking about it for a bit (she was thinking about you and your awesomeness put in her in the place brother). Then she apologizes. Small victories my friend. May not get the WW back and we may not care right.

PS, if you want a tattoo go get one. I disagree w/ others clearly. You wanted something honoring your son right? That sht won't be about your WW and a permanent reminder of her messed up self, tattoos are for you. That is as long as you don't have "I love WW" ink'd onto your forearm... ( I've seen it, poor guy). They hurt too, you won't be thinking about her when the ink is going in. After, use some of her expensive girl products to keep it moisturized.

[Ginger1]

I agree facebook could be evil. I'm glad I was separated the year it came out, lol.

I hate to break it to you, but she probably blocked you. And if she deactivated her account, those pics come back when it's reactivated. And if you are tagged, they aren't gone.

She's pissed, expect some pissy reactions. Doesn't mean you change your course. She just upset things aren't going exactly the way she wants.

You take your own pics, they are your own memories made with your S.

Keep moving forward despite her reactions.

[RSG]

Oh Ginger, I've been blocked since about Day 2. I would think her account has been deactivated rather than completely deleted, but who knows.

I've taken plenty of pics w/my little guy. And until I blocked her, she used them to keep track of us and to tell me how to parent.

[RSG]

Reality strikes. "Trailer trash is at the pool at mommys house."
Thanks son. No wonder he got a sunburn yesterday, she wasn't even paying attention to him.

[RSG]

I am so effing pissed off at this lying hoebag. I've kept my cool though via text, as she was asking about dropping his blanket off. I just said please leave it in a plastic bag at the front door, and I've left some more of your stuff outside (coats, misc clothing and a box of tampons). She asked if she could say hello, and I said we're about to take a nap.

Ironically, she then said school has requested a "family pic" due Tuesday. Should I pick one of the three of us? Maybe holding hands or on the bridge? I said, is that really realistic? We're family for about 5 minutes a week. She responded we're both his parents, but I'll send in a pic of me/him. I said I'll send in a pic. Parents and Family are completely different things, and I don't wish to play family. "Thx for being honest."

I asked her to leave my key in the mailbox, but she said she already left. "Is this it? I'll give it to you tomorrow when I drop him off." I said ok have a nice day. She said y'all too. She then said, just text me after he goes down tonight. I haven't responded......

Going minimal contact begins. No explanatory letters, no worries about interrogations. I'm worried I might get pissed off at a question, but my answer to giving back the key is "After you went through my house, I thought it was the best solution." If she asks if we have anything to talk about I'm again shutting it down with a "No, nothing's changed since the other day." If she gets angry, at any time, I'll ask her to say goodbye to S and please go.

I SO BADLY want to tell her good, church going Christian friends that their good friend is a slut. WITH ZERO GUILT OR REMORSE. SO BADLY. She doesn't want to "involve" them so they can keep thinking she's a good but "confused" woman in a "tough spot" and keep her reputation, as CT noted. I just can't do that to my boy, and logically I know I shouldn't before any D were to happen.

Time to feel real consequences.

You know what's really funny? After S told me Trailer Trash was at the pool with Mommy, she had asked about his back and my response was "I put a lot of aloe on him, he's fine. And he's been talking a lot." Lolz.

[Altair]

RSG: keep up the good work. If she's already pushing boundaries with 'saying hello' and 'family pictures'-- it's only going to get more intense (like a sunburn).

[CT1118]

I am so effing pissed off at this lying hoebag.

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHA! Oh man, laughing w/ you. I would love to hang out w/ you one day w/ sons at a playground - two dads breaking stereotypes about dads. When WW dropped of s4 last night, she did mention dinner w/ her girlfriend and blah blah blah. I didn't believe it at all. Taking s4 to beach this morning (same road his school is on, road to nowhere but the beach, his school, and apparently my WW's place) I passed her residence and OM truck was there. Just nothing but bllsht.

Hope my friend - our sons WILL grow up w/ us as strong male role models for fathers. Their moms want to swim in the mop bucket of their own lost dignity, that is their decision right now.

We both know you want to tell the world about what an ahole she is and prove it by calling out the level sht she is choosing to associate w right now, but we both know you won't. You won't RSG b/c that would make you a btch and you are not a btch, which you know.You also know we address each others sitch differently than we do others b/c we seemingly have achieved a similar emotional place at a similar time. Point being, I trust you know I say nothing w/ harm in mind. Your man-fu is powerful and you make me laugh, that is appreciated.