My Wife Walked Out 5

[RSG]

Mediocre mom. Yes I use it a lot. It feels like more of a phase than anything. From Jan through about early July, her Mom instincts went in the toilet. She would come home on weekdays, drop him off, then come home for bedtime....to sit next to me while I put him down and she played on the phone. Weekends? Excuse after excuse to leave, while we played.
It's getting much better though, I see it and hear it and it makes me happy for S.

Our schedules stink. She has to be in by 7, and based on where she lives has to leave at 6. The earliest preschool takes kids is 6:30, so I'm able to drop him off while she picks him up around 3 or so and drops him off with me.

No, this is not a long term thing. I know I need to decrease communication soon for my own health, and will probably update my proposed email to the board tonight.

[RSG]

I meant she came home from Jan-May, but she was still "off" as a Mom up until July. The last month or so has seen lots of improvement....

[Surfer]

Good that you are seeing improvement RSG. BTW my W has same schedule. Must be a school thing....

[RSG]

Yeah Surfer, I think it is.

Well, 3 times. 3 times she has now come into the house and searched through things without asking. I have made it clear that I don't appreciate her doing that, and she did it again. She said she was bringing S "straight home" and I said fine. Made no mention of picking up her clothes. I say bye, go upstairs to change clothes and see my closet has been picked through as her winter clothes were there.

It's not the STUFF, it's going through the house without asking! All she had to do was say "Can I pickup my clothes today when I dropoff S?" Obvious yes, as I have no need for a 5'10 woman's winter clothing and she finally has the space to hang them up. I made it clear again, and tried to validate that they are her clothes, for her place, but she went through the house without asking after I said please don't!

Ugh. I let her keep a key because there are times where she may need to bring him home before I get there. She tried to explain it away as "I was there, it just made sense" but I reiterated that I'm not comfortable with you going through my house please ask. She just said Got it, night. I said thank you, night.

Sandi, you are so right. They push and push and push and push. I still haven't gotten ALL of the respect back obviously!

[Surfer]

RSG. I used to just walk into my W house. She hated it. I needed to be invited. I get that. Perhaps she has not fully detached. She perhaps just sees it as hers still. I respect my W wishes now and she stands outside when she comes here, u less I invite her in. Sometimes I will leave her there whilst I get whatever she needs without inviting her in. Sometime I leave the door open and she tiptoes in. Need to work out a plan there. What would I do with the nosey neighbour.....probably the same.

[RSG]

She def thinks she has some sort of right to the place still, even though she would say "you don't feel comfortable with me in the house" when I would tell her to just take S home a few minutes before I arrive.


Was thinking this AM though....could she have taken them without telling me as a way to guard her feelings? Maybe she shed a tear or two? Maybe she was scared I'd get angry? (I haven't shown that in a while, but we haven't been around each other much) Doesn't change that I feel it's inappropriate, but at least I could understand it a little.

Anyway, nothing to report today just wanted to throw this out there and see what you guys think....

[CT1118]

I am not sure what the right/ wrong is, or even if there is one about a house. I know WAW and I were both in brief M's w/ others before we found one another again and M'ed each other. Anyway, in both our prior D's houses became a financial problem. So, when we S'd and did not know the future (still don't) it was a no brain'er to sell the house. It actually became a point of unity for us in that brief moment in time. Anyway, now there is no confusion and both have our own space.

Plus, I was not really sure how we bought the house. We wanted to move from city to suburbia, but wanted to rent a condo. Somehow RE angent convinced us to buy. I am much happier in my own space and S4 gets to have two bedrooms (hey, man's gotta hold onto something positive in all this).

[MoveFrwd]

Well, 3 times. 3 times she has now come into the house and searched through things without asking.

Time to change the doorknob?

[RSG]

W asked if we could meet at the church park today (the place she sabotaged me on Separation day) for drop off, so I said ok. I figured it was to let him play, but she just did a dump and run. As she was buckling him in his seat I was going to give him his teddy bear, and just figured I'd get in my seat and give it to him then. Now her hair is some kind of bronze. Lol.

I'm pretty pissed off. S and I went to the store to grab some milk, meat and supplies for a recipe I'm making. We come home, he takes his clothes off to use the toilet (I don't know why he takes them ALL off!) and I see his back is beet red. His face is also burned, but that's not as big of a deal. I sent her a pic of his back and say his back is beet red and his blanket is missing? After about 45mins she finally texts back and asks if I NEED his blanket. "I left it on his bed *sad emoji*" And "Put some aloe on his back, it's not that beet red." Are you effing kidding me??? I respond "S needs his blanket for nap at school. I'll put aloe on his back. Regardless of the shade, it is extremely red W. I'm very disappointed." "You can drop off blanket tomorrow after church." Looks like the improved Mom thing is over.

As for cooking, I'm getting interested in trying recipes. I don't exactly have a palate some fancy pants chef would like, but I'd like to at least try some new recipes. Tonight I'm making some black pepper rub chicken fingers. This is definitely something new for me, and I think it can be fun!

[Coconut]

Just a thought, but how about boxing up all of her stuff and give her a box each time she drops off son? I would just tell her that I know it's tough not to have your things when you need them..

As for the tattoo, I agree that it would represent a bad time, wether things work out between you two or not... Wait until you feel the dawn of a new day, then decide.