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As for her cake eating, I plan on saying "i no longer wish to have sex, as I am unsure as to what you may be doing when you go out, this is not to hurt you, but rather to protect myself".

I really don't want to wake up in 9 months and hope that it's not my baby. Cut and run people!


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One question for anyone, why can an EA turn into a PA so quickly?

What happens to the persons conscious during this process?


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Personally I think that EA can just be a fantasy, but at some point it turns into their reality, they tell themselves this is their soulmate the person they were meant to be with, the only person that understands them, their shoulder to lie to about you and how they never loved you and you and just ap General pos. From there the emotional connection in their mind is set and its easy transition to pa, especially for a woman trying to do everything to secure this magical fairy tale love!

It is their reality, hopefully only while in the fog, but could be for life.


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That should be conscience.


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Sandi always says to just say 'no thanks' if offered or asked for sex


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No thx, not in the mood, is good for me. Thx Ralph.

It's almost 4am. Still no sign of life. I'm realising that the day will come where she actually won't come home at all.

I need to get me some over the counter drowsy makers. Can always take allergy tabs during afternoon to knock me out at night. Would be killing two birds with one stone.

I have the opportunity to put the house in my name. Will cost me a pretty penny but think it's best.Cadet will say do it. Will it not look like I'm wanting a D now? She is risking her job with this behaviour and could take me down with her. Every cent is community of property and she has access to quick money since she works in the bank.


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Mine was always searching for something to satisfy her. Nothing was ever enough. I guess that they are letting their emotions dictate their actions. Something we LBSs are learning to overcome.

I hope she finds what she's looking for because I'm not finding it in her. My attraction for her is waning. The laugh that filled me with joy, now pains my ears. The touch that once aroused me is filled with insecurity. The words spoken stab like daggers.

I need to feel this. I need to be present.


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My head is racing. The full impact of this is slowly hitting home. I'm mitigating every obstacle that I see. I don't have much anxiety really.

Going to do more to get out of house, especially in the week once we say prays with our S.

I hope Saturday night will go better. But will make sure I take something to keep me asleep.


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She finally came in at 6am, said she fell asleep on couch. nice. She kept on re-iterating that OM2 is just a friend, so i said, fine, let me see your phone. Chats with him were quite sanitary. I was a little disappointed, in a non-disappointed way. I've had 3.5 hours sleep and have my blanket in the car. Off to nap soon.

OM2 may be a cover for the doctor friend, who is a black and congolese. But thats not my problem. She sent me her whereabouts at 12 / 2 / 4.

Dream said that I'm separated. For the first time I feel that we are. Whats the difference if I give up on my M or not - will it change the process? I feel like i'm giving up.


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I gave her no affection or attention when she came home. I just validated what she was saying about her nite out. I need to keep it up.


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