How do you get on the MWD facebook page anonymously?
No one will know if you viewed a page, only if you post. You can look at the page, look at who posted, and no one will know. You never know who you might run into there.
This thread is slowly coming to an end. Here is a briefing from the quagmire.
V| I know the fraudulent form is a felony. It is proving that it is fraudulent that will be the challenge. I asked my L, and after two months she is finally asking for the original so we can examine it. We have yet to see it. I am losing faith in my L - not sure what took her so long to ask for it. I am getting a sense that I am just not a priority. It is good to be back on these forums again. I forget how therapeutic it can be - when it is not acting as a huge time sink.
JellyB| You are right. I have not been taking firm an decisive action. I have been plagued by fear and the false perception that I am doing something wrong. I have not drawn any boundaries to protect myself. I have been pretty passive this whole time. I am plagued by doubts. I am not the RAI I want to be after the D. I just want to say ENOUGH. I am just not sure how. P.S. How do you get on the MWD facebook page anonymously?
Di-mond| Entitled. So very entitled. She has no job. She has no income. She is spending very irresponsibly. She has an advanced degree, yet she is doing everything in her power to avoid getting a job, because it could lower her alimony. pathetic. She rationalizes that the children take up too much time. But they are in school and camp. time will tell whether they will produce the original (fraudulent) document.
Losty| Thanks for stopping by. You are right. I am taking so much. I seem to have gotten used to my current sitch. It is the only thing I have known for years. I think my kids have as well. Our household is surreal right now. unhealthy, and surreal.
WRT what I want, I have no desire to save the marriage. Only a desire to terminate it ASAP, and move on. The lack of intimacy is wearing on me. I could never trust her again. As hard as it has been to detach, I am getting more and more comfortable with the notion of never seeing her again (outside of incidental childcare contact). She has hurt me so badly and behaved so callously, that I question whether she even has a soul at this point. She seems to have justified every terrible thing she has done. She lies whenever she opens her mouth. She has tried to manipulate my emotions. I am not going to play hurt or play the victim, but her actions have been very wicked. She has made choices all along. She cannot blame anyone else for her choices. She has chosen poorly at every chance. As I told her bluntly: she never misses and opportunity to miss an opportunity.
WRT the L, I am not sure. I am losing confidence in her. I retained her 2 years ago, and I am not seeing progress. Worse, I feel like I have been maligned by opposing counsel, with nary a whisper in response. My W is very capable of working, but she wants to be imputed to minimum mage. Entitled. The only word for it.
WRT friends, they put together a birthday party for me recently. It was ok. Somewhat poorly attended, but nice of them to do anyway. If they knew how much I am craving socialization right now, I think more would have come. I like watching movies. I like going to the gym. I like running. I tried golf the other day. It could grow on me. I am just so busy at work.
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Lovely RAI,
Action makes us feel empowered, it tells us that we are in control of our own destiny. Inspired action is the best action as it usually comes from a state of flow, of effortlessness.
Your post was the beginning of gaining clarity of how to move foward. You have noticed some issues related to stagnation with your lawyer, is there another action here, that can move you forward rather than keep you in the same place.
I have lived a life based on the fear that there are only good and bad decisions and that I always have to make the right one.
I have come to know over the last 18 months since BD, that while a bad decision can mean difficulty in the present it may just be the very thing needed to bring me to another place of abundance and love in the future now. There are no right actions or right decisions, but a lack of action based of fear, will only bring you more of the same.
PS. Just search that awful social media site for Zelda New and the Hobbit and you will find her and she will find me. She is completely confidential.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
