I think that it is detaching. I realise that I don't need her affection, and I don't need to be affectionate to her either. It's still my choice.
Thats fine. But thats not really what detachment is about. I think it's more than just not needing affection. It's about being in control of your emotions. Judging from your actions (....reactions?...) the last few days, I would say that you are anything BUT in control of your emotions.
Originally Posted By: DDJ
I refuse to conform, even to the general Db rules. Have always been a rebel. I test all theories to see their impact and see what works best. Don't get me wrong,I know that DBing works, but that does not mean that it can't be fun.
I dont have a clue what you are talking about. Fun? This isnt about having fun. You can "be a rebel" all you want. It's your life. But I know that if you treat this like a game, you arent going to win. And you are going to wind up seeing your son two days a week. If thats cool with you, then fine, Im not sure theres more for us to discuss.
Originally Posted By: DDJ
I feel so liberated from my WW, I'm focusing on myself. I don't think I've ever done that in my life. No worries about food for the W, if the W wants to get drunk. That's her problems. However, I still know that it's her choice if she wants to stay, but it's my choice what I do with my life.
Yes, this is all true.
But be careful about that bolded word.
I think youve proven that your feelings change. And quickly.
Let's see how "liberated" you feel tomorrow. Or next week. Or next month. Or next year.
