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Hi Uphill. Purgatory is not fun. It sounds like you're on the right track. Don't let her indecisiveness derail the uphill train. I know you can. I know you can.

Hope tomorrow is better for you. Vaya con dios.


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Uphill, sorry to hear about your bad day. It is extremely hard to handle them giving you some cheese and then pulling back. I am sorry to hear she got scared again. You made it once you can do it again.


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I agree with Tim.

I definitely do not think you have to panic. In fact, it's pretty common for false starts when the WAS starts to come back around.

Stay the course, my friend. I can think of a TON of people here that would love to be in your shoes. Just relax, and let that squirrel come to you.

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Hi Uphill! I'm sorry to hear that you had a rough day.

I'm reading your story and thinking that really there is a lot there to be hopeful about - those deep talks, fun texts. Going back to neutral is better than her going negative. Step back and just hang in there.


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U, it's not about the destination, it's the journey...

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Thanks to everybody for stopping in. The false start just [censored]! Haha

Vapo, I'm sick of this journey! I just want to get to the destination so I can get out of the car and stretch my legs!!! smile


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Also, I just want to take a minute and thank every person on this board. You are the people who take time out of your busy day, to help me and so many others keep our heads on straight. Most, while also going through and dealing with the worst life has every thrown at them. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU ALL!!!


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<3 I second that.


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U, what I am trying to say, in time I believe you will come to realize, that getting your W back is only secondary to the immense growth that can be received on a personal level in DB is done right...

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Hang in there Uphill!

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