Agreed, otw. It is so easy to question every decision or move made during this nightmare. I truly think that had I found divorce busting at the beginning I would have had a better shot at reconciling with the H. I made so many mistakes! But, I still have hope, not that I want to, but it isn't easy to give up on 25 years together after 7 months. Thanks, otw, for sharing. It is so helpful to know that others are going through the same thing....
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
I see a soliciter on Tuesday and then we will be putting the house on the market
My W has not been pressing for this but it does have to happen
My daughter is very unhappy and had been feeling suicidal and my wife and I have to try and protect her and if she says that she does not want to live with mummy and daddy then I will go I have to go I do not know if it will help her or my other children
I still feel that as a family we need to all go and talk to someone they do not want to
A new beginning is looming Ghost x
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
I know this is going to be really hard for you, but you are doing the right thing. Your priority is you and your kids and you will come out of this the other side OK - battered and bruised, but OK.
Don't overthink the future right now, concentrate on the present. Can I be so bold as to recommend you get professional help for your D? My SD required anti depressants at the start and this may help.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
My house just went on the market, Seems thing are moving near the same for us. You need to look into options of where you are going next. Start looking for another smaller house for you. You will feel a little better once you have a plan of where you are going after the house sells. Are you working on a separation agreement yet? Usually that needs to be done first before you sell. What did the lawyer say about it?
Try to get some ducks in a row for all of this AP. you can do it!!
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
I'm sorry things aren't progressing the way you would like. I wanted to tell you that we are basically making our 2 sons to go to counseling. They are 15 and 12. At first, they hated it. But, it has really been helpful. They go alone not as a family, so they can truly express their sadness and angry. I know teens can be impossible but it may help your daughter. I hope things improve when you get a plan together on how to move forward. Thinking of you and your kids ((hugs))
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
As you can see I have been spinning less I have been spending a little more time away from here and I have been coming to terms with what is happening a little more that I had
Personal trainer going well training hard each week and the weight is now starting to to come off I am looking still to loose 3 to 4 lbs a weel this is quite a lot but then I do have quite a lot of weight to loose
I still have feelings of why and surly this can be fixed but now I am not the one trying to fix this any longer
All I am doing is being the best that I can be and feel happy that this has made me into a better person
I have been getting along better with my daughter and this is great
Mother's Day I got my wife a couple of small gifts from our children and I gave her a card thanking her for the things that she does for our children and went arround to my mums house for a meal.
I am starting to get a plan together and I am really starting to think about my future options
Thank you all I have not been easy
Ghost
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
Glad to read this update. Sounds like you are getting your chit together & that's what needed to happen. I read more acceptance in your post...and no panic - which is good.
Take care xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
My W had a flat battery on her car yesterday and I bump started the car for her she did not know how I am not the kind of person not to do this I just feel that she wants this separation so she should have to stand in her own two feet in difficult times I just don't want to come across as an a$$
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
I see a soliciter on Tuesday and then we will be putting the house on the market
My W has not been pressing for this but it does have to happen
My daughter is very unhappy and had been feeling suicidal and my wife and I have to try and protect her and if she says that she does not want to live with mummy and daddy then I will go I have to go I do not know if it will help her or my other children
I still feel that as a family we need to all go and talk to someone they do not want to
A new beginning is looming Ghost x
Get your daughter to a counselor. Now. This is not about you and any sacrifices you might make, but about saving your daughter's life.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
