I am heading into a weekend without the kids. I have a good amount of stuff planned out. Weather may be a little shaky but i am going o make the best of it!
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Back story. I have suspected my W of seeing someone from a local minor league hockey team for a little while now.
Started when my mother told me about a Facebook picture of her at a hockey game. We haven't gone in years to one, she didn't have interest anymore. It made me start thinking and mind reading into things. At xmas she bought S4 a couple hockey items. He has never shown interest in this or even mentioned it. D7 said she caught W face timing some guy one night. which would make sense that he would be out of town and they could not see each other.
Now tonight, i was trying to call the kids and had to eventually message W to speak them. She took a while responding and i started looking at the timing of everything and I said to myself, i bet she took them to a hockey game. Finally get a text back from her saying we are at hockey game, will have them call on way home.
I am furious. Not at the fact that she could be dating this person, but at the fact that she is taking kids around this person even if it is indirectly.
They are very smart and when she does eventually introduce them down the road they will put this together.
She has only been out of the house 2.5 months and the kids are in no way ready to be meeting anyone involved in either of our lives.
I don't know what to do right now. I would have hoped with kids this young we would discuss how introducing someone to them should be handled. even if they don't meet tonight, they will eventually put 2 and 2 together.
I know some could say i don't know for sure but there is too much there to brush this off.
what do i do?
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Otw, first of all, you might be jumping to conclusions. You are still NC - or as NC as possible with kids?
Maybe send an email and just say "For the sake of the children's emotional well being, I would like to consult with a child therapist to get some guidance on how to introduce the children to potential significant others when the time comes. Would you be willing to listen to dr. so-and-so's recommendation?"
I really am just guessing here. Leave it open and non-accusatory. For all you know, she might think you are starting to date and that could get her thinking.
i guess. i know i have no real hard evidence, but the writing is on the wall with this. I pray i am wrong because i can actually not stop her from doing anything. and will this just make matters worse if i bring it up.
i am going a thousand directions with this. I am trying to just get busy with something and let some time pass. as we all know the initial of anything is so hard
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Otw. I went through that for about a week last month. Just when I was getting very good at detaching, there he was in my dreams. Very good dreams too. I think its our brains just trying to process what has happened. I wonder if they dream about us? Probably not a good thing to wonder.
